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Anna Matthews But I am also overwhelmed a lot of the time too :( #navigatinggrief #n
Ipswich, Suffolk
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But I am also overwhelmed a lot of the time too :( #navigatinggrief #navigatingthenewnormal
Taryn Wilkinson Yesterday 14.09.19 was one of those trigger moments, when you’re hit
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Yesterday 14.09.19 was one of those trigger moments, when you’re hit by a simple thing. Mine was food. The smell of food. It caught me off guard an made my defense come crashing down. The weight, pain, anger came out. The pain of it all I have been trying to keep at bay and suppress. We were having a family lunch at an Asian restaurant along the beach. My favorite cuisine. We were chatting as usual and out came the food. The waiter placed it on the table and just the smell triggered it all. I excused myself from the table because I felt I was about to burst into tears. I walked off toward the beach. Toward the wooden fence leading to the beach and in the distance was table mountain. I tried to control myself because I realized there were people around. But then my mom came over and held me from behind. And defenses started crumbling. The tears just came and came. I couldn’t hold back any longer. With the tears and pain I felt so much anger. Mom, aware of all (5) the losses over the passed year asked if it was a specific one. Or just all of it. I just shook my head. She asked “is it Daddy Kiki ?” and the tears just came uncontrollably. She allowed me to just cry but later asked if I wanted to talk or share what was on my mind. These were my words... “I know he is in a better place but don’t care that he is. I just want him back. I just want him back!! “ Honestly, My heart is struggling with his passing. It hurts. I miss you Daddy Kiki @chasingdonkeys ,everyday. 5 months yesterday 14.04.19 #cumulativegrief #navigatinggrief #griefsupport #grief #loss #bereavement #Journingthroughgrief #imissyou #IndoDad #vulnerability #honesty #individualjourney #unfamiliarjourney #triggers #unexpectedmoments #unpredictable #lifeafterloss #normalizegrief #anger #pain #tears #nature #soothing Смотреть полностью
Grief support and services The reality is we don't forget or move one. Instead we honor and carry
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The reality is we don't forget or move one. Instead we honor and carry love with us everyday. . . #carryinggrief #loveliveson #weremember #rememberinglovedones #inourhearts #loved #carrylove #carrythelove #loss #heartbroken #navigatinggrief #hopeis #wehonor #losingasister #losingsomeone #losingapregnancy #losingalovedone #time #holdingon #griefsurvivor #death #deathtakes #griefjourney #deathquotes #navigatinggrief #widowsupport #mindfullness #navigatinghappiness Смотреть полностью
Grief support and services In the early days of grieving my husband's death, I was constantly bei
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In the early days of grieving my husband's death, I was constantly being bombarded with gut-wrenching questions. Questions like what happened or how did he die were very personal. My response was, "He didn't die, he rose up to meet God in the air," and then the room went silent. . . #questionsaboutdeath #griefquote #noseypeople #personalquestions #griefispersonal #griefispainful #loss #curiousgeorge #curiositykilledthecat #copingwithdeath #copinwithlife #loved #losingaspouse #widowsupport #griefsupport #griefjourney #heartbroken #whatsyourgrief #stagesofgrieving #stagesofgriefandloss #copingwithloss #navigatinggrief #funeraletiquette #askmequestions #losingalovedoneisnevereasy #appropriate #navigatinghealing #navigatinghappiness Смотреть полностью
Roots Family Collaborative THOUGHTFUL THURSDAY-As the seasons transition, we may be reminded of
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THOUGHTFUL THURSDAY - As the seasons transition, we may be reminded of loss. You are NOT alone. - Tonight we offer space for anyone experiencing loss 7-8pm 110 S Grand Ave second floor. Hope you will join us. #bereavedparents #peertopeersupport #lossmomshelpinglossmoms #infantloss #pregnancyloss #youarenotalone #grief #navigatinggrief #childloss #stillstandingmagazine #griefwork #loss @mrsgroff678 @ittybittymitten @amanda_kilty @jacque.dunn Смотреть полностью
Taryn Wilkinson Some days are days where anger surfaces...All you want to do is screa
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Some days are days where anger surfaces... All you want to do is scream and cry at the same time. • -Anger that the person is no longer around. -Anger toward the person because they left you. -Anger because life is forever altered. Things will never back to the way things were. -Anger when seeing your loved ones in so much pain. -Anger feeling robbed of what could have been. -Anger at not being able to say good-bye. -Anger at not being understood. -Anger at not only the absence of the person but loss of other people/ things too. -Anger at a loss of a future. -Anger that it hurts so much. -Anger at this whole messy situation. Etc.... • Today was one of those Angry days for me. 😭😩😠😤😭😖😣😭 #navigatinggrief #griefsupport #grief #loss #bereavement #Journingthroughgrief #imissyou #unfamiliarjourney #mixedemotions #anger #guilt #sadness #future #newnormal #goodbye #pain Смотреть полностью
Anna Matthews Yesterday evening I was in an emotional state :( I cried a lot A numb
Ipswich, Suffolk
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Yesterday evening I was in an emotional state :( I cried a lot A number of things led to this : 1) missing Cliff, and thinking of missed opportunities to just be with him in the last ten days of his life. 2) Agnes getting over 40 bunchems stuck in her hair and spending four hours untangling them. This morning she can't go to school as I still have a dozen to somehow get out 3) the constant wish I could turn back the clock and have my old life back #grief #navigatinggrief #wifemotherdragqueen Смотреть полностью
Hannah Aubut Public When you're a loss parent, grief is all around you. No matter where yo
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When you're a loss parent, grief is all around you. No matter where you go, or what you're doing, it is within you. In the words you speak, in the actions you take, in the around every corner. It is always there. It has many forms. • Going back to school and leaving Cyan at daycare 6-8 hours a day has been a challenge for me. It is for a lot of parents, but it feels so much more complex for me. The refreshing sentiment of missing Cyan reminds me of missing Senna, and after that realisation everything else is a minefield. And at the end of my school day, when the longing for Cyan subsides with a smile and a huge from them, the longing for Senna feels that much stronger. • Today, I decided to put my hands in some dirt in an effort to practice self care. I needed to relieve some of the weight of the past week somehow. I repotted my plants that needed new room to grow, and fertilised the rest before bringing them in for the winter. And even here, in this photo of two aloe pups that grew from the aloe I was given while pregnant with Senna, there is grief. But instead of being heavy with absence, it feels like rememberance and tribute. My child didn't physically grow, but time has passed and her memory has grown with it. • Like I said above, grief is everywhere and it has many forms. Some are heavy, some are light. But it is always there, shattering your will while putting a smile on your face simultaneously. • Смотреть полностью
Grief support and services For years, I wanted to move griefs foggy existence out of the way. I t
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For years, I wanted to move griefs foggy existence out of the way. I thought the best way to handle grief was to pretend it was not there. Grief blinded me and reminded me of the life and love that was taken from me. . Grief lurks in the shadow of your existence, demanding to be felt and dealt with. You can't avoid grief or transfer its negative energy to soneone else. You can't hide from grief or outrun it. Grief lingers. Learning to adjust to its presence is the key to coexisting together. . #navigatinggrief #encouragingwords #loss #copingwithgrief #copingwithloss #losingsomeone #losingachild #death #losingaparent #losingafriend #hopeis #shadowsofgrief #grieflingers #griefshare #walkingthroughgriefwithgrace #widows #widowsupportingwidows #griefsupport #griefsupportforfamilies #hearttoheart #copingwithanxiety #selfcare #hope #griefsymbols #hopeforwidows Смотреть полностью
Grief support and services Not all wounds are visible. Not all pain is obvious. Not all scars ble
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Not all wounds are visible. Not all pain is obvious. Not all scars bleed. Not all wounds heal. Not all pain can be spoken or summed up with a few emotions. . Living with grief for me feels like having a broken leg that never healed perfectly, but overtime you learn to adjust to the limp putting one foot in front of the other. . #livingwithloss #livingwithgrief #navigatinggrief #griefisaprocess #griefsupport #bereaved #losingsomeone #copingwithgrief #copingwithloss #copingwithdeathandloss #widows #widowedwomen #widowlifesucks #deathtakes #griefisreal #heartbroken #griefandbereavement #hearttoheart #misshimsomuch #healingvibrations #healingfromgrief #healingfromloss #purple 💜 #death #loveliveson Смотреть полностью
Grief support and services Being with someone you love is like finding a quiet place in a world f
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Being with someone you love is like finding a quiet place in a world filled with thunder. Without your loved one, the world can seem chaotic and uninviting. . When my husband died, I shut down emotionally and disconnected from the outside world. His love comforted me and sheltered me from the cold world around me. . The storms of life seemed like a tsunami without him. Then one day, when I needed it the most, I remembered that every comforting or encouraging word he had every spoken was still with me tucked away deep inside my heart. . #unconditionallove #loveliveson #helpingpeople #tsunamioflove #widowspeak #widowsupport #love #lovelivesinmyheart #loss #heartbroken #griegandloveinterwined #widowed #lovehim ❤️ #griefsurvivor #griefprocess #bereaved #coping #griefcommunity #widowsupport #heart #losingalovedone #navigatinggrief #navigatinghappiness Смотреть полностью
Anna Matthews Stuffication and Grief :( we have too much stuff lots has a connection
Ipswich, Suffolk
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Stuffication and Grief :( we have too much stuff lots has a connection to darling Cliff. Today I have thrown away ten of these bottles they used to drive me mad when he was alive. They always looked so dirty but they have become something else that's difficult to let go of all. #grief #lettinggo #navigatinggrief #navigatingthenewnormal Смотреть полностью
SFV-CAMFT Thank you to Debi Frankle for being a lifelong member of our chapter a
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Thank you to Debi Frankle for being a lifelong member of our chapter and presenting anout her passion (grief) today. Thank you as well to Gregg Bruno for sponsoring. Grieving isn't limited to just death, it can also be associated to divorce, status change, etc. #greggbruno #sellingyourhomeinadivorce #debifrankle #debijenkins #debijenkinsfrankle #calabasascounseling #familygrief #navigatinggrief #grief #grieving #grieftsunami #grieftsunamis #memberspeaker #membershipmeeting #mft #sfvcamft @debijenkinsfrankle @debifrankle @greggbruno Смотреть полностью
Hayley Vetras it’s OK to not be OK: Navigating Grief..This week has been an emot
Seattle, Washington
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it’s OK to not be OK: Navigating Grief. . This week has been an emotional one for me for various reasons. Tomorrow will be the 3 year anniversary of one of my best friends' passing and so many feelings have surfaced because of it. Grief is such a strange thing and a passage I recently read below describes it well. . “Grief is not linear. There's no sequential order or stages to grief that happen in some sensical order. And in that same vein, a moment can contain multitudes. A moment can be both great and terrible at the same time for different reasons. Life with grief is filled with this non-life near bitter sweetness". . Grief comes in various forms and triggers can occur when you least expect them. These waves of emotion can last from seconds to days for me and over the past few years I have found different ways to cope. From small to large acts of self-care, (and not your typical massage, face mask, bubble bath type of self care - although I do partake in those regularly and find they do help) - I have found 10 additional things that have helped me deal with grief. One in particular I am just getting back to - writing. . Check out my newest blog post (link in bio) to hear my story about Megan, how grief affected me personally and 10 “healthy” ways I’ve learned to cope with it. 🖤 . . . . #awholisticlife #loss #grief #griefisnotlinear #labordayweekend #bestfriend #cope #seattle #selfcare #10ways #help #beopen #shareyourstory #breathe #feelyouremotions #happyplace #indulge #write #adaptogens #move #connect #behappy #itsokaytonotbeokay #navigatinggrief Смотреть полностью
Roots Family Collaborative THOUGHTFUL THURSDAY Losing a child in any way at any time, is devasta
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THOUGHTFUL THURSDAY Losing a child in any way at any time, is devastating. The resiliency it takes to get through the next moment, day, week, month, years... is intangible. You are not alone. Second and fourth Thursdays we hold space for you 7-8pm at 110 S Grand second floor. #bereavedparents #peertopeersupport #lossmomshelpinglossmoms #infantloss #pregnancyloss #youarenotalone #grief #navigatinggrief #childloss #resiliency #griefwork #loss @mrsgroff678 @ittybittymitten @amanda_kilty @jacque.dunn @our_missing_peace_charity Смотреть полностью
Taryn Wilkinson Today is a good example of cummulative grief.Its my aunt's 6th year
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Today is a good example of cummulative grief. Its my aunt's 6th year anniversary of her passing. I came across my fb memory, me writing to my cousins. Sending them love and telling them I'm thinking of them. They were all tagged in it. But looking at it brought on so much emotions. Firstly seeing my cousin Tatum's name and her comment in response to my message to her and her siblings ( In the picture above). My heart ached. It made me miss her more. Just the reminder of me not being able to chat with her again. Our catch ups on how each other was doing ,etc. Tomorrow she will be gone for 11 months. What I loved about my relationship with Tatum was, we would never end a chat without saying I love you to each other. We never had to question our places in each others hearts. Secondly, I then went through the likes of the very same post and up popped up a like from my other cousin Dorrin who passed away in 2015... ° And the rest was history... 😭 ° Its amazing what cumulative grieve does... •It's a mess. •It triggers other losses. •You feel guilt when you feel one loss more intensely than the other. •You miss everyone at the same time. •Sometimes you just numb your emotions for a while cause its just too much to carry all at once. #5peoplein11months #cumulativegrieve #navigatinggrief #triggers #memories #reminders #grief #loss #bereavement #griefsucks #unfamiliarjourney #imissyou #journeyingthroughgrief Смотреть полностью
Taryn Wilkinson Reposted this old post because of my next post....•Cumulative gri
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Reposted this old post because of my next post.... • Cumulative grief: It occures when a person experiences one loss after the other in a short space of time. This image is the best depiction of my personal experience with cumulative grief. Others described it with the saying" it never rains but it pours" Over the last 11 months I have lost 5 people dear to me. Never, ever, have I imagined this. One death of a loved one is so life altering, intensely painful and overwhelming on its own. Cumulative grief changes ones life on so many different levels at the same time. *I find myself missing them all at once. *One fresh loss flares up the previous loss that has just occured. Quite a confusing and overwhelming journey. This is something I am still learning to navigate my way through. I have read that one way is to deal with it one loss at a time. If any of you have experienced this form of grief. Please do share your experience and how you have navigated through yours. Would love to hear from you. #cumulativegrief #navigatinggrief #griefsupport #grief #loss #bereavement #Journingthroughgrief #imissyou #unfamiliarjourney Смотреть полностью
Hannah Aubut Public
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"I clamored for pieces of my baby as he ran down the drain during my second trimester miscarriage. I screamed for my then husband to come help me turn off the tap. I begged the universe to stop and give me a second to hold him. I saved parts. A small hand. And so many clumps. I'd seen him so clearly in the 3d ultrasound. I didn't understand how he wasn't solid enough not to be so soft. So friable. The best of me ran down that drain. I was a mother and then I was nothing. I died for years." • Today, I woke up to this mother's raw, short description of what perinatal loss can look like. Trauma, grief, and sorrow put into words. I refused to look away, even though the reality of it all took my breath away. • For such a brief paragraph, it touches on so many parts of #perinatalloss which are relevant at any stage. The emotions that arise when we are suddenly forced to come to terms with the fragility and fleetingness of life, the desperation to keep whatever mementos we can (no matter how gruesome) to remind ourselves that our children were in fact here, the heartbreak of a parent being forced to stay goodbye (sometimes before they even got to say hello). • I am honored to share this brief glimmer into this person's experience of perinatal loss with you, and hope you will sit with it. This mother deserves recognition for her bravery and vulnerability. Her baby deserves to be recognised and remembered, even if we weren't with her as she tried to save him slipping away. • We try to wrap up our grief and loss in a presentable and honest way, but there is no denying the nitty gritty truth of what this mother wrote. THIS is miscarriages THIS is perinatal loss. • And, I must add: my friend, you are every bit of a mother as me. You are not nothing. You are very, very courageous and the epitome of everything a parent is. Only someone swelling with the love and sorrow only a loss parent can know would search for her baby in the bathroom drain. That is loveand motherhood in action. Some people get to make their children school lunches, others have to grapple with how to preserve their fragile bodies in a world that judges harshly. Both are parents. • Смотреть полностью
Grief support and services Your healing is about coming into acceptace and making peace with losi
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Your healing is about coming into acceptace and making peace with losing someone you love. The time frame for your grief will be unique to your loss. No matter what pace you are moving at it does not require approval from anyone. ........................................................................ #healingfromgrief #heartbroken #copingwithloss #findingpeace #healingtrauma #individuality #mentalpeace #copingwithloss #copingwithgrief #acceptyourself #griefisreal #copingwithdeathandloss #grief #loss #copingwithdeath #widowwarrier #widowedandwounded #navigatinggrief #losingalovedone Смотреть полностью
Grief support and services Coping with grief can feel like climbing a steep mountain. The rocks b
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Coping with grief can feel like climbing a steep mountain. The rocks beneath your feet can seem unstable. The climb to the top was difficult, but you made it. Look around, look behind you, now look down and encourage someone else to climb. ................................................................ #climbingamountain #widowsupport #griefandloss #griefishardwork #loss #navigatinggrief #widowspeak #death #losingalovedone #unstoppable #copingwithloss #bereavement Смотреть полностью
Anna Matthews This is so true #griefhurts #grief #navigatinggrief #navigatingthenewn
Ipswich Hosp 1
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This is so true #griefhurts #grief #navigatinggrief #navigatingthenewnormal
Grief support and services Hold on to the love you carry in your heart.Death forces us to let go
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Hold on to the love you carry in your heart. Death forces us to let go of our loved one's hand, but nothing can remove the love inside our hearts. ...................................................................... #loveliveson #lovelivesinmyheart #grief #griefandloss #copingwithloss #loss #navigatinggrief #holdingontohope #holdingontoyou #holdingontolove #widowsupport #widows #hopeis #widowed #widowedandsurviving #widowedandyoung Смотреть полностью
Taryn Wilkinson My Beautiful South Africa.My heart bleeds for you.It bleeds for it's
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My Beautiful South Africa. My heart bleeds for you. It bleeds for it's people. Our country is in desperate need of you God. 🙏🏼😭💔 • Psalms 22:27-28 “All the ends of the earth will remember and turn to the Lord, and all the families of the nations will bow down before Him, for dominion belongs to the Lord and He rules over the nations.” 🙏🏼🙌🏼 #southafrica #capetown #rainbownation #healing #freedom #peace #weneedtheLord #navigatinggrief #loss #bereavent #grief #choosingempathy #support #griefsupport #comfort Смотреть полностью
Grief support and services We are grieving. Holding on to all that was good and perfect before th
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We are grieving. Holding on to all that was good and perfect before the storms of life swept love away. Like if you are grieving. ........................................................................ #navigatinggrief #findingyourself #loss #widowsupport #holdingontohope #holdingon #widowsupportingwidows #death #missingyou 😢 #findingpeace #griefishardwork #griefandloss #losingalovedone #widows #widowedandyoung #widowsofinstagram #griefisreal #griefisloveunfinished #griefislove #losingalovedone #losingafriend #losingsomeone Смотреть полностью
Clean Beauty Asia Today has made me think about how unbelievably precious and sometimes
Jakarta, Indonesia
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Today has made me think about how unbelievably precious and sometimes horribly fleeting life can be. Life can disappear in a blink of an eye never to be brought back. Leaving memories and a massive hole. If you are Indonesian you are nearly 10x more likely to have a child under 1 die than an Australian. There is never the right thing to do or say to someone who has lost someone so close, especially a child but it is important to say something however clumsy. So hold all those around you a little tighter tonight and be so very grateful for them warts and all. . . . #loss #childloss #griefsupport #selfkindness #bekind #navigatinggrief #thirdworldinfantmortality #betterhealthcareforall #speakup #showyoucare Смотреть полностью
Anna Matthews Recently a throw away commitment made me feel judged and criticised.
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Recently a throw away commitment made me feel judged and criticised. I am pretty sure that person would be horrified if they knew it had the effect of sticking in my head. Anyhow they said "do you keep busy to distract yourself" I can't really work out any other method in life to get you through things other than keeping busy. I no longer have an adult human in my home available to hang out with and do very little other than just be together. This means saying "yes" to stuff to keep weekends busy and planning activities rather than just going with the flow. When this came up on my timehop this morning it made me think small humans are the best at spending hours busily doing nothing distracting everyone around them. And made me think again of the "do you keep busy to distract yourself" Yes I do :) is there anything wrong with that ? #griefhurts #grief #navigatinggrief #navigatingthenewnormal Смотреть полностью
Andrea Bowers Started off this Saturday as a Monday. The best time to start is NOW w
Lombello's Residence - Vilas Do Atlântico
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Started off this Saturday as a Monday. The best time to start is NOW when the desire for change is burning. . Take that old project from the drawer and plan for it TODAY! —— Comecei esse Sábado em ritmo de Segunda. Melhor hora de começar é AGORA quando o deseja de mudança está latente. . Desengaveta aquele projeto e começa HOJE! #momlife #backontrack #momof2 #navigatinggrief #dsf21 #momrunnersrock #startnow Смотреть полностью
Grief support and services Grief symptoms can be overwhelming and frightening. Here are a list of
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Grief symptoms can be overwhelming and frightening. Here are a list of symptoms that are often surprising to the bereaved. You are not alone in your grief journey. Comment on a symptom that you were surprised to experience. .................................................................. #griefsymptoms #griefishardwork #copingwithloss #copingwithgrief #grief #bereavement #bereaved #loss #griefcommunity #griefjourney #grieving #losingalovedone #losingaspouse #losingasister #losingafriend #navigatinggrief #anxietyisreal #sleepness #insomniaandgrief #morethangrief #losingaparent #losingalovedoneisnevereasy Смотреть полностью
Hannah Aubut Public Some of the best people I know are riddled with trauma. They store mem
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Some of the best people I know are riddled with trauma. They store memories of their parents throwing dishes at one another in their toes, are able to recall the sensation of pushing their already-gone infant through their birth canal on queue, jump whenever the phone rings because it brings by the memory of that moment when everything changed, and hesitate when someone asks them how they are because they never know how much is too much. • Some of them are the people you first think of when you need someone to call, and others struggle to show up on time or go anywhere at all. Some of them thrive under the grace of a psychotherapist while others were misunderstood or ostracised by medical professionals. • They have lost babies, watched their babies heart fail as they were wheeled into the operating room, watched their siblings cower in a closet during one of their fathers’ rampages, held their children in their arms until they turned white and cold. • They come in a variety of shapes, sizes, and backgrounds but all have one thing in common: they were worthy, capable and smart before trauma scarred them. • You might look at them in awe of what they have managed to overcome. They themselves might recognize the good they salvaged in the aftermath of the moments that changed them forever. But the statement stands: no one NEEDS trauma to build character. You do not need adverse events to find character or purpose. • (Continued in comments) Смотреть полностью
Roots Family Collaborative THOUGHTFUL THURSDAY -“Someday you won’t be so sad all the time. T
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THOUGHTFUL THURSDAY - “Someday you won’t be so sad all the time. The pain of losing someone fades, but that pain can pop up unexpectedly and hit you between the eyes - but with each year it softens. It’s ok to be sad, to cry, to grieve.” - A post shared by @babyintime_ (see more of this story by clicking link in bio) - We offer you space to share your story in person with a compassionate person at 110 S Grand Ave, second floor second and fourth Thursdays every month from 7-8pm. - #bereavedparents #peertopeersupport #lossmomshelpinglossmoms #infantloss #pregnancyloss #youarenotalone #grief #navigatinggrief #childloss #griefwork #loss @mrsgroff678 @ittybittymitten @amanda_kilty @jacque.dunn Смотреть полностью
Hannah Aubut Public Today, I walked the campus where I will be spending the next 3 to 5 ye
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Today, I walked the campus where I will be spending the next 3 to 5 years of my life studying the ins and outs of social work. To find myself here after everything that has happened is surreal and overwhelming. • Even though I know my success is my own, I struggle to grapple with the fact that losing Senna was ultimately the inspiration that led me to live one of my dreams. Before I was forced to build myself back up from the bare bones of who I was, I had settled for other goals and convinced myself that this was so far out of reach, it wasn’t even worth trying. • I was a woman of substance and someone capable of exactly what I’m doing today before stillbirth nearly wrecked my life, yet I cannot shake the link this sliver of happiness has with my daughter being dead. • Guilt and discomfort are lingering behind every success and moment of happiness a loss parent experiences after their child dies, and as I walk the cobbled streets of this esteemed university, I am all but crippled by truth reflecting back at me. I belong here, but I am only here because my baby died. • Every loss parent knows how hard it is to not ask yourself if you would trade whatever good you have right now for the life of your child. And if I’m honest with myself, Cyan aside, I would. I trade everything I have learned and been offered in a heartbeat. I would have found another path, taken a different road. I would still be happy, and I would have her. • But that’s not reality, is it? The reality is that her body has been reduced to the ashes that sit on my headboard. Yet, the thought sits in the back of my mind, taunting me. The harder I fight against it, the stronger is becomes. So it sits there in my mind, taking up space. It isn’t enough to stop me, but it is enough to weigh. A constant contradiction. An all-to-familiar parallel life. • It is painfully clear to me that in every step I take forward in social work, my attachment to Senna is going to be there. Fueling my heart and feeding my drive. She is gone, but still very much here. • Since losing Senna, I feel as if my hands are empty. Yet here I am, giving so much with them. • Смотреть полностью
Taryn Wilkinson Today 6 years ago my best friend's mom passed. A dear woman to my fami
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Today 6 years ago my best friend's mom passed. A dear woman to my family and I. Her death was the first death that turned my world upside down. Yes, I have experienced other deaths prior to hers ( grandparents, great grand mother, uncles, aunts, a student in my class and family friend's 14 years old daughter) But her death was just so intense. It left me bewildered with so many questions, fears, and distrust. This was my first encounter with "Disenfranshised Grief" - “Grief that persons experience when they incur a loss that is not or cannot be openly acknowledged, socially sanctioned or publicly mourned”. Ken Doka During this time well meaning people had much to say about my time of grief. - " Its 3 months already but you're still grieving" - " It's not even your mother..." - " She's in a better place now. " I have learnt so much during this time. 1.  I should never dictate to someone how they should grieve the person they've lost. 2. Based on the circumstances I can't dictate how intense the loss of the person should be for the one grieving 3. Just because it's not a relative doesn't mean you can't mourn the death. 3. The person who passed was not only in relationship with their family but shared their life with others too. Because of her death I could create space for others ( non relatives) when my grandfather died. I knew he was never only ours but the community's. (Someone in his church even told us as family, "yes he was your but he was ours too".) • Everyone has the right to mourn. • @whatsyourgrief has a list of example off disenfranchised grief and loss. Head on over and have a look. https://whatsyourgrief.com/64-examples-of-disenfranchised-grief/ #navigatinggrief #griefsupport #grief #loss #bereavement #Journingthroughgrief #imissyou #unfamiliarjourney #disenfranchisedgrief #joyofthelordismystrength "I will not die but live and will proclaim what the Lord has done. Psalm 118:17" Смотреть полностью
Allison Shea Shea, I love the ways you still show up and feel present. I love
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Shea Shea, I love the ways you still show up and feel present. I love that this song, which has made me think of you ever since you left, came on the radio as soon as I started my car this morning to head to a sunrise shoot. I love that it was the beginning of the song, too, so I got to relish in the whole thing and smile and think of you. I love that it happened today, the first of the two darkest days of my year... the day we started losing you. You’re still making everything more fun and enjoyable, though, the way you always did — even solo car rides at 5 in the morning ❤️ Thank you. #navigatinggrief Смотреть полностью
Hannah Aubut Public Written by my husband: Over the years after our child Senna died, I le
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Written by my husband: Over the years after our child Senna died, I learned many things. • I learned that community, the people who surround you and rituals are so important to remain strong in the face of the horrors we live and honor the memories of our children in a culture where loss and grief are not appreciated as they should. • In a culture where people are so afraid of death they try to talk themselves out of it, or simply by denying it happens, when someone inadvertently tells you that you aren't a parent because you have no living child or when they try to argue that things happen for a reason, that there's a silver lining. But there is no silver lining when a child dies. • I've learned so many things in the last years. I've learned to ask for help from those who love me when I felt like a burden to them, when my own sadness and loneliness made me blind to my emotions. •  I've learned about how little control we have over our own mortality, over ourselves, and how fragile and valuable life really is. About how no matter how good the choices you make are, you are never completely immune to any of this. • I've learned about people falling out of my life because they can't stand to be around me anymore, or because they can't stand that you're still carrying on through these horrible things that have happened. • Thankfully I've also learned about the people who will submerge themselves in the grief with you. True family and true friends. • But with all I've learned, I've also learned that no lesson is worth what I now understand. • Except one. (Continued in comments) Смотреть полностью
Roots Family Collaborative THOUGHTFUL THURSDAY - “It is said a rainbow does not negate the rava
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THOUGHTFUL THURSDAY - “It is said a rainbow does not negate the ravages of any storm. When a rainbow appears, it does not mean the storm never happened or that we are not still dealing with it’s aftermath. It means that something beautiful and full of light has appeared in the midst of darkness and clouds. Storm clouds may still hover, (and) the rainbow provides a counterbalance of color, energy and hope.” #nationalrainbowbabyday #bereavedparents #peertopeersupport #lossmomshelpinglossmoms #infantloss #pregnancyloss #youarenotalone #grief #navigatinggrief #childloss #griefwork #loss @mrsgroff678 @ittybittymitten @amanda_kilty @jacque.dunn Смотреть полностью
Lisa Herbert my today’s ‘mays’ for anyone grieving may the love you had heal
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my today’s ‘mays’ for anyone grieving may the love you had heal your heart may the connection you had give you strength to live on even brighter than you could ever imagine may your memories bring warmth and happiness on sad days may your loss eventually turn back to happiness as you navigate from grief to peace may knowing that big heartache means there was even bigger love help you on the missing them moments may you know there is no timetable nor manual on grief, it itself is a journey for us to experience, learn and grow may you always know they are with you, and they loved you, so you should be kind to yourself and love you too xo for my noni: I miss you nan, it’s weird not having you on the human side, also a little scary knowing I don’t have that special safe grandma place to go if ever needed, im sad I dont have you to send the latest school photos too, and my ring Nan weekly phone alarm will never be stopped because it’s still our time Nan, now my time to stop and think about you and all my loved ones in heaven, the reminder to rebalance and spiritually connect back in - I’m happy you have finished your human journey because I got to share over half of it with you, but I do and will always terribly miss you - and I can’t wait to see how you choose to contact me from the other side when you’ve done all you need to do xo #navigatinggrief #openaboutgrief #missyounoni #may #wishgriefwaseasier #bekindtoyourself #talkaboutsadness #talkaboutgrief #holdhandswhenyoucan #spiritual #heaven #talksoon #loveyou Смотреть полностью
Hannah Aubut Public Secondary Losses. We all have them, and they all differ. They can rang
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Secondary Losses. We all have them, and they all differ. They can range from a career, to a friend, and even extend to marriages. Regardless of what your list is composed of, they are arguably one of the most painful things we face in the wake of loss. • And for me, they were actually a good thing. I know, I know, this sounds a lot like the silver lining bullshit I fight against, but hear me out. • It has been about a year since someone who I used to consider a sister, who accompanied me during both of my births and witnessed some of the most vulnerable and trying moments in my life, severed herself from me. When she left, and took all of her memories of Senna and everything I had poured into our bond with her, I was devastated. It didn’t just feel like losing someone I considered pivotal in my life, but also like I had lost a part of Senna. I had shared what valuable time I had with Senna with this person, and together we had built Senna’s presence in my life. I centered my attachment to my daughter around those who supported me, and found a lot of validation through them. Because they grieved, I allowed myself to grieve. For me, that bond was sacred and rooted in something bigger than personal qualms or broken history. But, I was wrong. And in truth, that is a lot of pressure to put on a single person or relationship. • When someone who slept on the hospital floor next to your bed while you sobbed yourself to sleep after watching you deliver your dead baby decides to walk out of your life, it calls for a lot of introspection. It makes you doubt yourself to your core, and question whatever past you share together. It rocked my perception of who Senna was the impact she had on not only my life, but the lives of those who surrounded me. It made me doubt myself, the validity of my grief, and the way I was choosing to live my life. • (Continued in comments, also in my FB). • Смотреть полностью
Anna Matthews Five months today :( we have missed countless hours of your company.
Ipswich, Suffolk
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Five months today :( we have missed countless hours of your company. Somehow we are still functioning #grief #griefhurts #navigatinggrief #lifewithoutyou Смотреть полностью
Anna Matthews Reforming and starting over #navigatinggrief #movingforward #cafelife
La Tour Cycle Cafe
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Reforming and starting over #navigatinggrief #movingforward #cafelife #community #moreincommon
Anna Matthews So true #grief #wifemotherdragqueen #navigatinggrief #navigatingthenew
Belstead Brook Leisure Club
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So true #grief #wifemotherdragqueen #navigatinggrief #navigatingthenewnormal
Hannah Aubut Public Here is what I wrote the first time I recognised I wasn't focused on m
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Here is what I wrote the first time I recognised I wasn't focused on mourning or remembering Senna: "I didn’t think about you for five whole minutes today. For the past 8+ weeks, you’ve dominated my thoughts. Every breath was heavy as I constantly felt your absence. Like I was bathing in it. • When I realized my mind had wondered from you, there was a sharp sting. Such a big part of your existence has been the grief that followed when you never cried, and I can slowly feel that sliding away from me as I find comfort in learning the source of your demise and learn to navigate my days without you physically with me. • I won’t ever forget you, you are such a part of me, but there will be moments – brief moments – where you will not be my focus, happy or sad. And that… well, it hurts. Its scary. It is what I was afraid of when I handed you to your Dad, and told you I loved you for the last time. It what made me wimper “I don’t know how to be a person” as I breathed in your sweet yeasty scent, and marveled at your perfect mouth that I had stuck my finger in to feel your warm tongue just moments before. I didn’t want to be any farther from you than I was in that moment, and yet I knew that one day, I would be. • The grief has been so profound, so consuming, so present, and so welcome. I’ve learned so much about you, and about myself, through mourning you. • I’m moving forward. Somehow, like everyone told me I would, I am planning for a future, for other children, for better good things to come, and yet I find myself still lacking the relief I’ve been searching for for these past two months. • I know I will always mourn you, and I will always wonder, but I will not always be debilitated by your absence. And that, for some reason I can’t really put my finger on, petrifies me to no end. It is like I’m losing a part of you. • I’ve only been able to parent you through grief, and realizing I will have moments without grief makes me feel like less of your parent. • This is so complicated, so hard, so sad. • I wish you were here. •" Смотреть полностью
SFV-CAMFT #MarketingMonday - REMINDER to join for our September 8th meeting (1st
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#MarketingMonday - REMINDER to join for our September 8th meeting (1st of 2 member speakers for the year) about "Family Grief: How You Can Help Clients Navigate Grief Tsunamis Together" with the phenomenal Debi Frankle! https://www.sfvcamft.org/event-3313810 #debifrankle #debijenkins #debijenkinsfrankle #calabasascounseling #familygrief #navigatinggrief #grief #memberspeaker #membershipmeeting #mft #sfvcamft @debijenkinsfrankle @debifrankle Смотреть полностью
Taryn Wilkinson “Hear my cry, O God, listen to my prayer; from the end of the earth
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“Hear my cry, O God, listen to my prayer; from the end of the earth I call to you when my heart is faint. Lead me to the rock that is higher than I, for you have been my refuge, a strong tower against the enemy.” ‭‭Psalms‬ ‭61:1-3 ESV #navigatinggrief #griefsupport #grief #loss #bereavement #Journingthroughgrief #imissyou #unfamiliarjourney #cummulativegrief #hope #faith #nature Смотреть полностью
Taryn Wilkinson Pa, no words does your absence justice.As cliche' as it sounds yet it
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Pa, no words does your absence justice. As cliche' as it sounds yet its true. Its a year today but the day you have left feels like yesterday. Those emotions we felt then, on that day, are remembered.💭💔 Our lives forever changed. I hated seeing you suffering and in pain which I am glad you are relieved of. But We miss you so deeply.😭 The space you've left vacant is huge. Till today we hear of how you've impacted others lives. Thank you for the legacy you have left behind. We are proud to be known as yours. We love you forever and always. ❤ #navigatinggrief #cumulativegrief #loss #grief #bereavement #lifeforeveraltered #void #absence #wemissyou #grandfather #granddaughter #family #love #newnormal #legacy #proud #hope #griefsucks #1styear #anniversary Смотреть полностью
Roots Family Collaborative THOUGHTFUL THURSDAY..Anyone who has experienced loss of a child in
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THOUGHTFUL THURSDAY . . Anyone who has experienced loss of a child in any way-at any stage-our hearts are with you. This is your loss and canNOT be compared. We are thinking of you and hope you know YOU ARE NOT ALONE. . . Post inspired by @ladywhalen & @stillstandingmag . . . #bereavedparents #peertopeersupport #lossparents #lossmomshelpinglossmoms #infantloss #pregnancyloss #youarenotalone #grief #navigatinggrief #childloss #stillstandingmagazine #griefwork #loss . . Roots Loss Support: @mrsgroff678 @ittybittymitten @amanda_kilty @jacque.dunn Смотреть полностью
Hannah Aubut Public Everyone talks about the first time they come home as if it is a singl
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Everyone talks about the first time they come home as if it is a single event when in truth, it is not a sole solitary event, but a recurring stress in our day to day lives. • So many of us wax poetic about how it felt when we left the hospital and went home without our babies. We talk about the emptiness that settled into the walls of our room when we crossed that threshold for the first time since our babies died, or how their room sat untouched for weeks, months, or years. We talk about how traumatic and soul crushing it was. • But what about how it feels to walk into your home after vacation 3 years later? • When I came home from my vacation a few weeks ago, I couldn't breathe. It wasn't just jet lag, or sadness leftover from saying goodbye to my dearest friend. Rather, it was the recurring heartache I feel when I return to my reality and Senna still isn't here. Logically, I know she will never be. But no matter how comfortable I seem to become in her absence, my heart still searches. • The feelings of dread and longing I experienced coming home empty handed that first day still linger almost three years later. Life is so different and so full of happiness, but a mother never forgets. Even the most painful things. • Everytime I come home, I come home without Senna. It is enough to drive someone into madness, but here I am. • If you feel on edge or especially drudged down after coming back from an overnight trip and can't really put your finger on why, give yourself grace. When you struggle a little bit more than the average person to get back into the swing of things after a vacation, remind yourself you're a superhero for still managing to make a life for yourself after everything that has happened. • If find yourself frustrated because you feel uncomfortable in your own home after a long day of traveling and can't seem to settle into your bed, remind yourself you just came home without your baby. Again. And again. And again. • Смотреть полностью
SFV-CAMFT #MarketingMonday - Join for our September meeting (1st of 2 member spe
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#MarketingMonday - Join for our September meeting (1st of 2 member speakers for the year) about "Family Grief: How You Can Help Clients Navigate Grief Tsunamis Together" on the 8th! https://www.sfvcamft.org/event-3313810 #familygrief #navigatinggrief #grief #memberspeaker #membershipmeeting #mft #sfvcamft Смотреть полностью
Inspirational Podcast | YNAP Episode 8 is live. This quote from today’s show is golden.•“We
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Episode 8 is live. This quote from today’s show is golden. • “We live in a society that says, ‘don’t run towards Him. Bad things don’t happen if our God is good’. But that’s exactly what happens. Our God is so good that when bad things happen He comes to save us.” - @jzcrouch#newepisode #podcastrelease #grief #navigatinggrief Смотреть полностью
Taryn Wilkinson 🙌🏼🙏🏼#navigatinggrief#grievingwithhope#hopeasananchor#g
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🙌🏼🙏🏼 #navigatinggrief #grievingwithhope #hopeasananchor #grief #loss #berea vement #Journeythroughgrief Смотреть полностью
OneYogaWNY Just some thoughts to my community while I’m navigating this grief.
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Just some thoughts to my community while I’m navigating this grief. Some days are incredibly hard and heavy and it takes so much effort just to sit outside to feel better. Like every other pain or trauma I’ve experienced, I let it breathe and then I continue to live. I find the things that lift me - connection, movement and nature. My practice, the practice - yoga, is not a defined thing and it supports me in many forms through all of my trials. I invite you to take a moment to honor how your practice supports you outside of class, in real life, when crap hits the fan. Feel free to share. XOXO . . . #yoga #realyoga #grief #navigatinggrief #breathe Смотреть полностью
The Riley Foundation COAs are statistically more likely to experience certain types of loss
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COAs are statistically more likely to experience certain types of loss. This could mean the temporary loss of a parent due to foster care placement or incarceration. Sometimes the loss is permanent in cases of adoption or parent death. Books are a great way to help children navigate such a tough topic. #parentloss #parentabsence #navigatinggrief #supportforchildren #childrenofaddiction Смотреть полностью
Taryn Wilkinson About 2 weeks from yesterday we laid my Uncle to rest.  It was such a
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About 2 weeks from yesterday we laid my Uncle to rest. It was such a bitter sweet experience. • Watching my family in less than 12 months having to create yet another new normal. After the passing of my uncle and grandfather's in about 11 months apart was the bitter part. • Last year on the 14th of August, two days before my grandfather's passing ,my mom's aunt passed. Due to the close proximity of mom’s aunt and my grandfather’s passing ,their funerals were held on the same day preventing us from being there for each on that day. The beauty/ sweet part of two Tuesday’s ago (uncles funeral) was in the midst of our pain we felt from our losses we stepped in helping each other carrying the weight of our pain • The extended family came from far ( 2 hours drive) on a winter's rainy day to support us during this time. • Their mere presence there that day meant so much. We were able to share our stories, the laugh and cry together and the journey of our past 11 months. Just the knowing we were on this journey together made such a difference . What a beautiful, tender moment. I feel so blessed to have experienced such a moment. Something I'll cherish forever. • #navigatinggrief #griefsupport #choosingempathy #grief #loss #bereavement #journeyingthrough #cumulativegrief #sharedgrief #family #love #hope • 📸: Ronel.Kleinhans and @fil_will Смотреть полностью
KimberlyRoseRoach #navigatinggrief #teachingmydaughters
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#navigatinggrief #teachingmydaughters
Dr Chloe Paidoussis-Mitchell Grief doesn’t stop because it is summer, or because the years keep r
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Grief doesn’t stop because it is summer, or because the years keep rolling. Grief is expansive, a shape shifter, calling you to rearrange your inner structures and pay attention to your being here today. Coping with grief in the summer is just as tough as any other season. If you are navigating this or want to support someone who is head over ➡️to the link in my bio ⬅️for professional advice 🙏 #drchloesadvice #grief #copingwithgrief #griefquotes #griefhealing #griefhelp #griefhasnolimits #overcominggrief #mentalhealthblogs #mentalhealthsupport #instatherapist #instapsychologist #lookafteryourself #bereaved #livingwithloss #navigatinggrief #mentalhealthadvice #mentalhealthadvocate #heal Смотреть полностью
Taryn Wilkinson Dear family/ friends/ loved ones...•Please be patient with your lo
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Dear family/ friends/ loved ones... • Please be patient with your loved one who is grieving. I know one feels helpless when you see them hurting. And all you want to do is make things better. • But please don’t rush your loved ones journey. It might not look as you expect it to. They are too still trying to navigate their way through this new normal/life. Allow your loved one to be the guide to what they need. One day they’ll smile again. But for now just be there and be patient. • #navigatinggrief #griefsupport #patience #justbethere #choosingempathy #grief #journeyingthroughgrief #grief #loss #bereavement #unfamiliarjourney #newnormal #hope Смотреть полностью
Roots Family Collaborative THOUGHTFUL THURSDAYToday we share a resource for those families who
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THOUGHTFUL THURSDAY Today we share a resource for those families who have experienced loss. Check out @babyintime_ for relatable stories, tangible products and connection. You may also click the link in our bio to access this amazing resource. We value their mission: “Removing the silence and stigma around pregnancy and infant loss; with open communication and accessible resources, we hope to support and empower women and men”. #peertopeersupport #lossmomshelpinglossmoms #childloss #babyintime #infantloss #pregnancyloss #youarenotalone #grief #navigatinggrief #miscarriage #griefwork #loss @mrsgroff678 @ittybittymitten @amanda_kilty @jacque.dunn Смотреть полностью
Nicole Cooper Sad to have a rain off - I hate not doing this show - but glad to have
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Sad to have a rain off - I hate not doing this show - but glad to have a night off. It’s 2 years since I lost my dad and tonight would have been a hard show to get through. My heart isn’t having the night off. Still smiling though ... so I’m also happy. That’s the way it works I guess! #hamlet #bardhamlet #rememberinghim #navigatinggrief #keepsmiling #headspace Смотреть полностью
Anna Matthews Drinking coffee and reflecting on the last few months, Cliff dying and
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Drinking coffee and reflecting on the last few months, Cliff dying and the after effects of @dragsos that feels such a lifetime ago when we actual filmed the programme. What has helped me daily to navigate this time is the investment everyday to make an effort to put on make-up and thrown on some clothes that make me feel good. #dragsos #navigatinggrief #whatsworkedforme Смотреть полностью
Tiny Graces I have had to access levels of courage I didn’t know I had - honouri
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I have had to access levels of courage I didn’t know I had - honouring you, and grieving for you while also trying to be a “happy mum” to two other little girls is one of the hardest things I’ve ever had to do xxx #youmakemebrave #courage #missingyou #missingyouherewithus #trauma #navigatinggrief #grief #griefandloss #babyloss #infantloss #infantlossawareness #grieving #amidoingthisright #griefjourney #lifewithouteva 💔 Смотреть полностью
InfertileAF, LLC A trigger only continues to be a trigger when you give your power to i
Chicago metropolitan area
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A trigger only continues to be a trigger when you give your power to it. ❤ The more we play up the drama with the people and environments around us, the more we internalize feelings of damage and scarcity. ❤ Simply put, we must take back our power with outside words and actions. ❤ So, how can we work to accomplish this? . Tia provides alternative methods and insight today on the blog. Direct link in profile. Infertileaf.org Смотреть полностью
Roots Family Collaborative THOUGHTFUL THURSDAY Today we share a story about lossSometimes read
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THOUGHTFUL THURSDAY Today we share a story about loss Sometimes reading another’s story helps us feel less isolated in our experience. It is also helpful to hear another’s story in person, face-to-face. Tonight we offer the opportunity for you to connect by either listening to another and/or telling your own story of loss prior to pregnancy. We welcome you to join our PALS group tonight from 7-8pm. @thebump #pregnancyafterloss #PALS #peertopeersupport #lossmomshelpinglossmoms #childloss #infantloss #pregnancyloss #youarenotalone #grief #navigatinggrief #miscarriage #griefwork #loss @mrsgroff678 @ittybittymitten @amanda_kilty @jacque.dunn Смотреть полностью
WILDWMN Four years ago I was setting out on a month long trip to India, a trip
Himalayas, Jammu and Kashmir
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Four years ago I was setting out on a month long trip to India, a trip that was transformational in so many ways. It was early on in my relationship with my husband but was a time when we bonded on a deeply spiritual level. It was at times, a rough road and the right of passage we went through on that pilgrimage challenged us in many ways. As we embarked on the adventure we were catapulted into a world of grief, guilt and anger. My husbands best friend was an addict and previous to meeting me my husband had put a vast amount of energy into tending for his friend, sleeping with him, taking him to his appointments, trying to cultivate interest in life, loaning him a car and money ... He did what any good friend would do but he also didn’t understand the illness that gripped his friend, he held onto the false belief that he could save him. On our way to India, in our layover city, we received a call. My husbands friend had overdosed and died in my husbands car the night before. We were struck by grief, it was unexpected, the last time we saw the friend he had seemed to be doing so well - but then there was a part of us that was unsurprised; we had known addiction, lost friends, were accustomed to the fragility of life and its ultimate destination. My husband decided that we had to focus on LIVING so we continued on the journey. I’m glad we did - but of course we met obstacles. I felt guilt that my husband had been putting his energy into me instead of his friend, my husband felt guilty, angry, hurt - I guess a part of him blamed me too. These are all parts of the normal human experience - to feel grief as a connection to self - but of course this wasn’t about us - it was about the friends tragic loss of life. I had nightmares, my husband bottled his feelings up and put up a wall - especially when the friends grief stricken family blamed him too. We were both silently processing our relationship to death - not just the death of this friend - but all the deaths we had encountered. During the first week in India we found ourselves, unexpectedly, in the Himalayan mountains, perched on the side of a hill in a tiny tent ... ( cont in comments ) Смотреть полностью
Taryn Wilkinson I love this scripture so much. Such a great example of Empathy.Moses'
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I love this scripture so much. Such a great example of Empathy. Moses's friends did not just encourage him from a far but they stepped into his space. They gave him support in various ways. Not only did they place the stone beneath him but they also themselves physically supported him. May we be this to the people within and outside our world. May we be willing to not only have compassion for others from a far. Instead have Empathy. Willing choosing to help carry the weight of others with them. Allow ourselves to feel what others are feeling. And be willing to "get our hands dirty" as we journey along side people. And specifically in the case of grief. Yes, empathy does not come easy and it's going to cost us. That's why we have to intentionally be CHOOSING empathy daily. It's a choice we make. I know we won't always get it right and we can't be there for all people but let's at least try and be intentional about having empathy. • #navigatinggrief #griefsupport #comfort #empathy #compassion #choosingempathy #grief #bereavement #loss #journingthroughgrief Смотреть полностью
Artemis DuBaer🌙 Pic one of from July 23rd,2015Pic 2 &3 were from October 2015··
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Pic one of from July 23rd,2015 Pic 2 &3 were from October 2015 · · · So I must get this off my chest: I feel horrible that the statements I keep making about how I can't be the same or smile the same because he's not here. Since several have come to me in the past few months apologizing to me for not being there for me like his was or even that my friendship with them can't compare. Each of my closest friends have unique situations that hold our friendships together so not one relationship is better than the others. I don't want it to ever seem that just because Darnell and I were extremely close, I look at him as my one and only great friend. He and I had the opportunity to be around each other ALOT since we not only lived in the same buildings at college, back home we lived 15mins from each other; majority of my other friends live by Grosse Pointe (or just on the east side period) so even with a car, trying to go east all the time takes up alot of gas (I got a older Malibu, Archer isn't always nice to me😂). · · · · · Darnell, however, understood me on a level I can't share with anyone else. He got the depths of my mental health because he was going through the same thing, just a bit deeper. We shared our birthday week, he never allow me to ever be alone no matter what he did and he somehow always figured out a way to cheer me up. No one can fill the huge gap he left because it's too unique of a puzzle piece. · · · · · · · I can't wait to be happier when I can look at pictures like this of us and smile; not burst into tears. I miss him so much; I'm truly lost without him. · · · · · · · · · #BestFran #BestFriend #AceBoonCoon #AceBoogie #LeoSeason #LifeAfterDeath #GriefJourney #griefsucks #griefprocess #blackmoms #blackmomblog #blackmomblogger #blackmombloggers #NavigatingGrief Смотреть полностью
Taryn Wilkinson Cumulative grief: It occures when a person experiences one loss after
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Cumulative grief: It occures when a person experiences one loss after the other in a short space of time. This image is the best depiction of my personal experience with cumulative grief. Others described it with the saying" it never rains but it pours" Over the last 11 months I have lost 5 people dear to me. Never, ever, have I imagined this. One death of a loved one is so life altering, intensely painful and overwhelming on its own. Cumulative grief changes ones life on so many different levels at the same time. *I find myself missing them all at once. *One fresh loss flares up the previous loss that has just occured. Quite a confusing and overwhelming journey. This is something I am still learning to navigate my way through. I have read that one way is to deal with it one loss at a time. If any of you have experienced this form of grief. Please do share your experience and how you have navigated through yours. Would love to hear from you. #cumulativegrief #navigatinggrief #griefsupport #grief #loss #bereavement #Journingthroughgrief #imissyou #unfamiliarjourney Смотреть полностью
Roots Family Collaborative THOUGHTFUL THURSDAY Second and fourth Thursdays of every month, we ho
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THOUGHTFUL THURSDAY Second and fourth Thursdays of every month, we hold space for those who have experienced loss. #peertopeersupport #lossmomshelpinglossmoms #childloss #stillstandingmagazine #infantloss #pregnancyloss #youarenotalone #grief #navigatinggrief #griefwork #loss @mrsgroff678 @ittybittymitten @amanda_kilty @jacque.dunn Смотреть полностью
Hannah Aubut Public If a mother speaks and her baby can't hear her, does it count? •Ab
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If a mother speaks and her baby can't hear her, does it count? • Abso-fucking-lutely it does. • My heat swells when I try to think of what I would say if Senna were in front of me. There are so many things, but I think "I love you" is all I would be able to muster. • What about you? What would you say, if you could speak to your little? • It can be so cathartic to type it out, to share your love. So today, I offer you a space to do just that. • #infantloss #perinatalloss #perinatallossawareness #grieveoutloud #itsokaynottobeokay #bearingtheunbearable #miscarriage #stillbirth #fetomaternalhemorrhage #grieveoutloud #griefbrain #griefsupport #miscarriage #stillborn #pregnancyloss #infantloss  #childloss #griefsupport #griefsucks #selfkindness #donttalkaboutthebaby #navigatinggrief Смотреть полностью
Hannah Aubut Public The support group that save my heart and soul after Senna died and Cya
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The support group that save my heart and soul after Senna died and Cyan was born is facing closure due to lack of funds. I'm running a personal fundraiser on FB and also providing resources to donate to them directly! Link in bio! Смотреть полностью
 The day we found out that we were having a daughter, this was two days
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The day we found out that we were having a daughter, this was two days before my water broke. It’s crazy how fast life can take a turn for the worst. #infantloss #infantlossawareness #grief #navigatinggrief #missinnissabear #ttc #ttcafterloss #genderreveal #angelbaby Смотреть полностью
Taryn Wilkinson 11 Months later and your absence is still intensely felt.We love you
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11 Months later and your absence is still intensely felt. We love you and miss you always our dearest Aunty Rachel. Forever in our hearts.❤ Thinking of my family...💭 @o_livz @julian.snyders.35 #navigatinggrief #cumulativegrief #griefjourney #choosingtoremember #11monthstoday #loss #bereavement #griefsucks Смотреть полностью
Taryn Wilkinson Daddy Kiki we celebrate your life. But this day has left such a big h
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Daddy Kiki we celebrate your life. But this day has left such a big hole in our hearts. We love you and miss you beyond imagination. We cherish all the memories we've shared. Love you forever....❤ • #adateforeveredgedinourhearts #3months #navigatinggrief #choosingtoremember #griefjourney #cumulativegrief #stillcantbelieveyouregone #wemissyou Love you and thinking of you Mami Yaya ❤ @maya_montolalu @mayatahir2206 Смотреть полностью
 OUR STORY:Our daughter Nissa Kariah was born prematurely at 22 weeks
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OUR STORY: Our daughter Nissa Kariah was born prematurely at 22 weeks 2 Days. I had premature rupture of membranes (my water broke) and I developed an infection in my uterus and placenta due to that. After three days in the hospital trying to keep our sweet daughter inside of me as long as possible she was born into my hands in the bathroom of our hospital room. She was born in room 206 on 2/6/19. Shortly after she was born she passed away in our hands surrounded by immense love. #MissinNissaBear #InfantLoss #ChildLoss #NavigatingGrief #MotherOfAnAngel Смотреть полностью
Roots Family Collaborative THOUGHTFUL THURSDAYSometimes in the summer as some are out enjoying
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THOUGHTFUL THURSDAY Sometimes in the summer as some are out enjoying the sun, one thinks of what could have been. We invite you to join our peer to peer support circle this evening. You are not alone. #peertopeersupport #lossmomshelpinglossmoms #childloss #stillstandingmagazine #infantloss #pregnancyloss #youarenotalone #grief #navigatinggrief #miscarriage #griefwork #loss @mrsgroff678 @ittybittymitten @amanda_kilty @jacque.dunn Смотреть полностью
Palo Alto Community Fund “Kara is an invaluable resource in our community. The grief training
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“Kara is an invaluable resource in our community. The grief training was exceptional. I've learned many new things, but moreover feel supported and valued for my role in this work. I gained wonderful personal and professional insight. Thank you.” . - School counselor who received Kara grief training . Grief is a complicated experience for anyone - even more so for children. Having support around them in school is key to helping them navigate their grief while still being able to learn and succeed in school. Kara works to equip school counselors and educators with the knowledge and tools they need to offer that support. . #givewhereyoulive #citybythebay #sf_insta #sanfranciscobay #alwayssf #nowrongwaysf #sfbayarea #sanfrancitizens #sf #igerssf #bayarea #siliconvalley #siliconvalleylife #siliconvalleyliving #bethechange #makeadifference #changetheworld #CheerUpTheLonelyDay #griefsupport #grievingchildren #navigatinggrief #grieftraining #karagrief Смотреть полностью
Louise Creswick - Grief Coach These words made me feel even sadder.What was it about my sadness th
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These words made me feel even sadder. What was it about my sadness the other person found so uncomfortable? 🤔 When people say things like this, please know they rarely mean to hurt you. It's quite the opposite. 🙈 It doesn't change the fact that it's a crap thing to say...just know you can choose to let it go. 🙏 Much Love, Louise 💜 #griefcoach #grief #loss #bereavement #lifebeyondloss #griefandlosscoach #griefjourney #sadness #griefconversation #thingspeoplesay #griefsupport #grieftips #navigatinggrief #healingafterloss Смотреть полностью
KARI MOLONEY “Grief, I’ve learned, is really just love. It’s all the love you
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“Grief, I’ve learned, is really just love. It’s all the love you want to give, but cannot. All that unspent love gathers up in the corners of your eyes, the lump in your throat, and in that hollow part of your chest. Grief is just love with no place to go.” -Jamie Anderson • Two weeks ago you rubbed my belly as I chatted by your bedside. You hated my unflattering maxi dress (you were always very honest!) and you made we laughed together. You felt baby kick and excitedly pointed out my baby bump to everyone. I didn’t know that was the last time we would talk. We used to talk every day. I looked forward to your calls and we would gossip and laugh. I especially loved your voicemails. You always hounded me to clear out my voicemail box so you could leave messages... now I wish I had done it more often... but you didn’t know it was full of messages from you anyway. • The following week, I had a feeling I needed to come home again, so I did. I came back but it was like you were already gone. No one wanted to see you suffer. You didn’t deserve it. But I sat by your bedside and held your hand while you slept. I whispered in your ear all the things I needed you to know before you left us. I told you that I always wanted to be just like you, that we would be ok, that I’d miss you ever single day. I asked you to send me signs, to send me butterflies. I want to believe you heard it all. • The next day you left us. You held on longer than anyone thought, and fought so hard. Everyone said you were stubborn... you were. You worried about us all too much and we worried about you. For a moment I stood numb in the doorway, the sunlight blinding through the windows, but you were already gone... and just like that the hole in my heart was ripped open, one that hadn’t fully healed in the 48 days since Gramps left us. I want to believe he took care of everything just like he always did and got a place ready for you, then came to get you and bring you home. A home where you could be together again, a home where there is no more pain. CONTINUED IN COMMENTS••• Смотреть полностью
Hannah Aubut Public Friends and acquaintances frequently come to me with broken hearts, as
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Friends and acquaintances frequently come to me with broken hearts, asking how they can support their friend or coworker who recently experienced a Loss. From miscarriages to grandparents dying, so many people feel compelled to reach out but don't want to make it worse or intrude. It such a great area, and no two people want the same things. • What helped you? What would you want your loved ones to know? • The people who showed up just to *be* with me and showed me they were still there, that there would still be a place for me somewhere meant so much. Those who inserted themselves into my life, left their expectations at the door, brought me food, vacuumed my floor, and acknowledged they couldn't make it better, but that they were there, kept me going. They couldn't carry my pain, but they could help me carry the mundane things of life that seemed so impossible. I could see they were uncomfortable and unsure, but they were there and that is what counted. • My friends who were too far to physically be present but sent me reminders in the mail months later, or random messages that they thought of Senna gave my weary heart some respit because it let me know Senna wasn't forgotten. • Смотреть полностью
Hannah Aubut Public
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"Okay Hannah, so what CAN we do?" says anyone and everyone who is trying to help a grieving friend or relative. • Talk to them. Even if they don't reply, even if you feel like you're stumbling over yourself and uncomfortable, talk to them. • And if you think you said the wrong thing in the nervousness of it all? Apologise. Mistakes are chances for empathy and connection. • It's hard to know if your words will comfort or encourage them, but that doesn't mean we shouldn't try. No matter how much time has passed, or how small your phrases seem in the face of whatever tragedy, no matter if they replied lats time or not, reach out. • Some of the most poignant things people have said to me have happened when I least expected it. This is a quote from a message I got from an old classmate in response to something I shared months ago. It's stuck with me this whole time, and I think about it everytime my discomfort gets the best if me and I think about shutting this whole thing down. It's encouraged me to go more public, to spread my voice a little farther. And it's let me know, in some of the most sad times, I'm not alone. I'm not screaming into a void. • Your words, my words, are powerful. Use them. Even if they're imperfect. • Смотреть полностью
Hannah Aubut Public I've spent the past two years and seven months surrounded by grief. Wh
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I've spent the past two years and seven months surrounded by grief. Whatever I've done, wherever I've gone, it's been there. Whether it was in the shadows or at the forefront of my mind, it was never far from my reach. • And still, I'm surprised by the many ways it can manifest. Sometimes, even I get disturbed. • As my Dad sits in the ICU with a team of doctors trying to help him stay comfortable and lively as we await the results of his biopsy, there is this little voice in my head wondering how you commemorate a stillborn grandchild in someone's obituary. • It could be months or years from now before I even need to consider this at all, and I recognise how inherently self serving this thought process is. People I love are stressed, scared, worried, and suffering, yet here I am. I can't control it. It's beyond me. • When my parents die, whether it be tomorrow or 30+ years from now, all of their surviving children and grandchildren will be named off, showing off their lineage and accomplishments. And where do children like Senna, or my cousin who passed when he was just weeks old, fit into it? • It's funny how our minds and hearts desperately want to preserve and protect our children, even at the expense of decency. Is this morbid? Is it acceptable? Is this just one of those way loss parents parent in absence of daycare schedules and laundry? • Смотреть полностью
Taryn Wilkinson Thats all we can do at times to get through this journey.•We tend
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Thats all we can do at times to get through this journey. • We tend expect so much from ourselves. Especially with society's grieving expectations that are placed on us. • Don't think you need to be at a specific point in your journey at certain time. You take it one breath at a time because sometimes the journey/pain is so weighty, one hour at a time is not even possible. • You need to remember to be gracious toward yourself, even selfish from time to time. Its Ok not to be ok... • #navigatinggrief #grief #loss #selfcare #onebreathatatime #journeyofgrief #griefsupport #itsoknottobeok #timeout • 📷: thanks @hiboudesigns for the design of this hoop. And for using these freeing words in such a creative manner. Смотреть полностью
Taryn Wilkinson A date forever edged in our hearts.You are indeed missed Daddy Kiki
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A date forever edged in our hearts. You are indeed missed Daddy Kiki with much intensity. We have forever been changed by your presence in our lives. Love you always....❤ @chasingdonkeys #navigatinggrief #journeyofgrief #bereavement #loss #choosingtoremember #always #griefsucks #wemissyou Смотреть полностью