Mentor | Speaker
It must get awfully uncomfortable sitting on the fence - or not. I've been silently questioning speakers, teachers, authors and mentors I've followed for 5 years for quite some time and I was in a period of denial that I was being silly. Their messages of sisterhood and oneness and law of attraction indicating that we all have an all access pass so long as we are positive, polite, subservient. I thought their words and teachings included my peers and myself. Unfortunately not. We've been fed whatever they want to offer to us using methodologies that don't address oppression, suppression, supremacy or race. •
You cannot be colour blind about race. You cannot. To be blind in this way is to erase us - black, non-black, biracial - to erase our pain, our trauma, our stories, the violence we've experienced and our identities.
The unsubscribes, unfollows, unlikes and the growing pile of books I'm getting rid of rises like wood and junk piled up for a bonfire. I don't want to have a bar of anyone who is not doing the damn work. I don't care for tokenism, colourless speaker lineups, shallow spiritual teachings, messages of enlightenment, love and light (lite) or words of remorse, anger and shock when it might up the subscriber or student numbers. I see you clearly. •
The work of unravelling, unearthing and waking up to internalised oppression and racism is Work. You don't get applause, a thank you or a pat on the back for doing what is right. Nope. As I expand my connections with those embodying and doing the Work, I reduce the numbers of those whose words I hung onto when I thought I was counted. •
I'm white passing to some, there's no denying that. I have privilege. I have a corporate job. I live in a very white suburb and my daughter goes to a very white school, but I have for 3/4 of my life, felt other. Told I don't belong, to go back to my own country, been spat on, been ignored, been yelled abuse at. Saying I'm other: That's not daring to be different, that's truth. It just IS. •
This year I have only just begun to connect with peers and people who 'get it'. People who are unpacking and unravelling and saying no more of this screwed up shit and those who are