How to survive #coparenting 101. Donât take things too seriously. For those of you that know our story you know it hasnât been easy or a fairytale by any means. We got to where we are today with a lot of work and one common goal - to be the best parents (individually and as a whole) that we can be for Max. That is the best advice I can give to anyone trying to co-parent : remove yourself and focus on the most important thing, your baby. Once I was able to look at Cesar as Maxs dad and not the man who left me when I was pregnant and broke my heart (still kinda bitter, can ya tell) - I was able to see him as a dad and the man that loves our baby so much. Now sure, thereâs days where I still resent him a lot and thatâs something I donât think I will get over but one thing I try to remember is this is now. He is here now. He is loving Max and doing what he thinks is best as a dad right now. I canât change the past but I can focus and be present today. I can let Max learn this side of his dad and be grateful for that rather than wallow in the sadness and anger of my past. I can be grateful that Max can know his dad. There is always gonna be tough days but when things are tough and I want to kill him - I remember, there is always someone that is worse off and I have to remind myself to be grateful and remember my family is my family for a reason and every good, bad, or ugly moment makes us, us and that is enough for me. I hope this can help you if you are trying to co-parent and if you or anyone you know needs to talk or vent or has questions please know my inbox is only a box away! Tag your friends that may need this - I love knowing I am not alone in the crazy world of co-parenting. So if youâre struggling, slap on a mustache, play with confetti, and laugh together - a little joy can go a LONG way! .