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Natalie St. John Monday evening my co-pilot, Crazy Hazie and I went up the grade to col
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Monday evening my co-pilot, Crazy Hazie and I went up the grade to collect elderberries under the buzzing, crackling Bonneville Power lines that march over the hills and valleys like an army of giant robots. Hazel thrashed through the underbrush while I leapt and lunged at clusters of berries that were all growing far above my head. I get my own jars off high shelves these days... I have the gift of time right now, and when I feel lost, I go and wander the woods, mentally cataloguing the subtle shifts that mark the progress of the season. The dogbane and Queen Anne’s lace are still going, the snowberries and Oregon grapes are holding fast, but the sweet peas, yarrow, blackberries and St. John’s Wort are all but gone. Scarlet creeping into the maples and poison oak. Mullein and asters and apples bringing new colors to the landscape. We filled a bucket with purple berries, collected a few medicinal plants and headed for home. This wheat field had a new military-looking haircut, high n’ tight. They were too high up to photograph, but I had to stop to gawk at the astonishing sight of maybe 40 vultures performing an aerial ballet on a draft over the wheat field. Six months since D had his stroke today. It feels like a minute, a blur, a lifetime. The dogs and I are finding our way; a new way. Time is marching on, with or without us. #widow #witchythings #widowedandyoung #foraging #grief #autumn #shortgirls #gooutside #pnw #pnwonderland #pnwphotographer Смотреть полностью
Danni Randall The simply amazing @gayle_copper_tattoo did this amazing tattoo for me
Steel Point Tattoos-Croydon
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The simply amazing @gayle_copper_tattoo did this amazing tattoo for me yesterday in tribute to my beautiful and dearly missed husband, Michael. The crack in time is Mike's heartbeat and the writing is his actual handwriting. It is simply beautiful. I can also no longer deny that I am a total nerd! Thank you so much @gayle_copper_tattoo #tattoo #tributetattoos #drwho #drwhotattoo #tardis #crackintime #togetherforeverintimeandspace #love #husband #nerd #nerdygirl #nerdwife #widowedandyoung #widowedandsurviving Смотреть полностью
Life Unexpected Day 349 - yesterday baby R’s first ever kilt arrived in the post cou
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Day 349 - yesterday baby R’s first ever kilt arrived in the post courtesy of G’s cousins. He modelled it post nursery with a biscuit, no shoes and refusing to put on the rest of the outfit. He looked so adorable. But it brought a tear to my eye - a moment G would have truly loved. Ever since I met him, G would wear his kilt to every formal thing we went to and he, of course, got married to me in it. It’s extra long as he was so tall and someone knitted him special socks. So many memories associated with it. It’s packed away now, the family tartan, ready for baby R to one day own it and hopefully want to wear it. It’s moments like this that you realise when someone is so young and they lose a parent, you now have the responsibility of painting all these pictures to bring them back to life. So hard, so painful, so unfair. I know I’ll do ok at it for me and G but it doesn’t make it ok 💙 #widow #youngwidow #widowedandyoung #babykilt #tartan #kilt #grief #griefandloss #beingmumanddad #soloparent #loneparent #singleparent #griefjourney Смотреть полностью
 This week I learned that grief has muscle memory.Matt’s grandfathe
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This week I learned that grief has muscle memory. Matt’s grandfather, G and H’s great-grandfather, passed away at 106 years old. He lived a long and beautiful life, fathering three sons, mentoring six grandchildren, and delighting in nine great-grandchildren. He’d seen the world change, witnessed the explosion of technology and the evolution of humanity. His loss, like every loss, leaves an absence, a space that will never quite be filled, in those who knew and loved him. But his death isn’t a tragedy in the strictest sense of the word. Matt’s parents called to tell me the news shortly after I arrived for my third day of #Pilates training intensive. I heard the words they spoke and my physical reaction was instant. My heart rate soared well into the 180s. My hands shook. I felt light-headed and unable to focus, to see straight. Guilt vibrated through me as I tried to tamp down the physical response. I felt as if I was overreacting, stealing grief from the people who deserved to grieve—Matt’s parents, his sisters, his cousins. Not me. The granddaughter-in-law. It wasn’t until hours later that I placed the reaction. It was identical to the reaction I’d had at the cemetery the day we buried Matt. The same elevated heart rate and wild, out of control spinning sensation. It was the muscle memory of grief. It was the reality that grief changes you, becomes a part of you, and that’s not necessarily a terrible thing. Because maybe that fact, that way that grief is absorbed into the fabric of who you are, means you have the tools to be a little kinder, a little more empathetic, a little more present for the moments that matter. Maybe. Hopefully. Смотреть полностью
Jill M Swillum Writing is oddly therapeutic for me. What’s therapeutic for you? Wh
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Writing is oddly therapeutic for me. What’s therapeutic for you? What helps you? #widow #youngwidow #christianwidow #widowedandyoung #christian #journeyingrief #loss #lifeafterloss #lifeingrief #strength #godsstrengthnotmine #triumphovertragedy #godsplannotmine #myunexpectedjourney #alegacyoffaith #widowhood #widowsupport #widowsofinstagram Смотреть полностью
Rachel Cockett Nearly eight months since Alistair died. We often cooked or prepared f
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Nearly eight months since Alistair died. We often cooked or prepared food together. I've eaten everything in the freezer that we made together. . This jar of pickled beetroot, complete with his scrawly masking tape label, is the last of the food that he made. Just a few pieces left now. . Pic two is him making mulled wine, a winter ritual. Pic three is one of our barbeques 💜💚 . #bereavement #grief #loss #griefandloss #grieving  #griefjourney #griefrevolution #widow #widowlife  #widowedandyoung #youngwidow  #widowsofinstagram #memories #happymemories Смотреть полностью
Young Widow What a fantastic day we all had at Kew Gardens, the sculptures in the
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What a fantastic day we all had at Kew Gardens, the sculptures in the Waterlily house are stunning 😊
Life Unexpected Day 347 - couldn’t sleep last night for various reasons. Life stuff,
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Day 347 - couldn’t sleep last night for various reasons. Life stuff, over tiredness, annoying correspondence. And then suddenly I came back to reality and recalled how hard this few weeks really are. With life going on you sometimes forget that the run up to anniversaries is so hard - even if you’re busy with other things in the background your brain is recalling. It’s doing its thing, which should be warm and comforting remembering of happy times and is instead full of all this pain now. This photo was a year ago yesterday. G looks tired but happy as we are just back from Sri Lanka and he’s balancing finishing his old job and getting everything sorted for his new company. Every step of this next few weeks is crazy - no one in these pictures had a clue what was coming. Baby R is just tiny. Sometimes the magnitude of what has happened takes time to really hit. And it’s funny because for those not as close to us, it’s just time that’s passed, it’s almost a good thing that a year has gone but for those that know it’s not. It’s like stepping slowly through a dark film filled with horror where you watch your own pain and each day that brings you closer is almost frightening. But it’s Monday. The working week and so I’m glad I’ve learnt to allow that pain in and feel it but know that somehow I can pick it up and carry it now - that’s what almost a year brings you - ways to sometimes cope with life - here’s to a kind Monday for us all🤞🏽 #widow #youngwidow #widowedandyoung #grief #griefjourney #griefandloss #bereavement #monday Смотреть полностью
Natalie St. John Peeling roasted peppers for green chicken enchiladas at the lodge. Fo
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Peeling roasted peppers for green chicken enchiladas at the lodge. For the first time in many years, I don’t have a job that defines my identity and bends my life to its will. I work a lot of hours at the moment, but the second I walk out the door, I’m done. No dire consequences if I fuck it up, no worrying that the people I encounter professionally might try to hurt or kill me, no deeply-entrenched toxic culture of subverting all of one’s own needs just to prove you’re self-destructive enough to roll with the big boys. I show up, clean, cook family-style meals that seem to surprise and thrill these captains of industry far more than the fact that they can pay what I used to earn in two or three weeks to spend two or three days fishing. I serve their meals, listen to their stories, top up their coffee, laugh at their jokes, smile to myself when they casually say things like, “Last year my son took my wife to the U.S. Open, so this year she took him to Wimbledon.” Sometimes my ego wants to shout “I’VE WON A LOT OF AWARDS AT MY REAL JOB YOU KNOW.” Sometimes it’s even fun. Cooking is my love-language and when I lost my family and my work-family, I suddenly had no one to “talk” to. If they tip generously it pays better than truth-seeking and light-hunting. “So, you’re basically a housewife for a bunch of rich guys?” a guy who rents a cabin on the property said to me last night. “Um, yeah, I guess I am.” It was funny, but it smarted a bit to realize the class divide in this country is so vast that I have more in common with a guy who had several almost definitely white pride tattoos than with the guests inside. Until recently, my partner and coworkers called me “The Shark.” It brings me back round to the same stark truth I’ve been confronting over and over in the process of trying to build a new life: To allow your happiness or identity to depend on anything external is pure folly at best. Love and happiness are choices we must make over and over again, day by day, often when we feel so tired and defeated we don’t want to even try. Rest up, my friends. We get a fresh start tomorrow. #griefjourney #grief #widow #widowedandyoung #pnw #journalism #whothefuckamI Смотреть полностью
Jane Kiely For a month or so I’ve felt myself shifting into another gear and en
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For a month or so I’ve felt myself shifting into another gear and entering a new season in my grief journey. 🌱 The grief rollercoaster will certainly come back down again at some point, it always does, but right now it is moving steadily upwards and I’m really enjoying the break from being sad. I’m not sure true balance exists (it’s fleeting anyway) so rather than worry too much about whether I’m facing reality in the right amount, or putting it off for another day, I’m going with the flow. For now, I’m enjoying making progress at work, experimenting with new recipes for dinner, meeting up with more widowed friends and thinking about where I go from here. Anyone have any ideas for new hobbies? Aerial Pilates looks fun! #whatsnext #widow #widowedandyoung #change #griefjourney #griefandloss #griefrecovery #creativejournaling #sketchitout Смотреть полностью
Jill M Swillum I was gonna post something else today, but then I came across this...
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I was gonna post something else today, but then I came across this... It speaks for itself ❣️ Happy Sunday y’all! #widow #youngwidow #christianwidow #widowedandyoung #christian #journeyingrief #loss #lifeafterloss #lifeingrief #strength #godsstrengthnotmine #triumphovertragedy #godsplannotmine #myunexpectedjourney #alegacyoffaith #widowhood #widowsupport #widowsofinstagram Смотреть полностью
Life Unexpected Day 346 - quiet afternoon after a very early morning start and amongst
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Day 346 - quiet afternoon after a very early morning start and amongst the first ones in the queue for the supermarket to open 😳. Weekends can suck a lot on your own but sometimes you need the solitary time despite everything - we made it out, window shopped, got some lunch and are now back indulging baby R’s biggest obsessions - things with wheels and the #teletubbies 🧡 #widow #youngwidow #widowedandyoung #grief #griefandloss #toddlertimes #toddler #griefjourney #singleparent #beingmumanddad #sundayafternoon Смотреть полностью
Wanderlust Widow One of my most favourite sections of the @sundaytimes is the @sundayti
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One of my most favourite sections of the @sundaytimes is the @sundaytimestr avel . It would be great to see some articles specifically aimed at widowed parents. I’ve had so many holiday ideas from the supplement #travellingwidow #travelsasawidowedparent #widowedandyoung #widowedwilltravel #makemorememories #wanderlustwidow #thewanderlustfulwidow #livelife #strongerthanyouthink #youcandoit #youcanmakeitonyourown #travelhealsthesoul #sundaytimestravel #sundaytimes #widowedparentadventures # Смотреть полностью
Rea Took part in my first ever park run 🏃🏻‍♀️ Yes it was blood
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Took part in my first ever park run 🏃🏻‍♀️ Yes it was bloody hard, this chocolate enriched body wasn’t made for running 🤣 but so chuffed I made the full 5k with the help from my sister and Rob and support from the runners at work. #parkrun #goddingtonpark #orpington #running #fitness #fitnessgoals #couch25k #couch25ktraining #parkrunuk #theoneleftbehind #widowedandyoung #mentalhealth #runningmotivation #confidence #confidenceboost Смотреть полностью
The Mermaid Academy 💥It’s Sunday another week done and dusted. This week we’ve had
Tom and Barbara's aka the Good Life
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💥It’s Sunday another week done and dusted. This week we’ve had 💥 Three mermaid parties ✅ 8 weekly lessons ✅ Washed and dried over 60 mermaid tails ✅ Met 21 new mermaids ✅ Now it’s time to relax and swim with my own little 🦈 Shark Have a great Sunday all, enjoy the 🌞 Смотреть полностью
Wanderlust Widow Where the river meets the Atlantic as we made the scenic drive to Prai
Praia De Odeceixe, Faro, Portugal
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Where the river meets the Atlantic as we made the scenic drive to Praia De Odeceixe. We had the most amazing day on this incredible beach with the drama of the Atlantic waves and the peaceful, relaxing lazy river Ribeira de Seixe. In the summer the shallow river is warm and inviting but as you float closer to the Atlantic the temperature drops drastically. Odeceixe is one of the most northern towns on the Algarve coast. #widowedparenttravel #widowedandyoung #keepingtheadventurealive #livelife #youarestrongerthanyouthink #keepgoing #travellingwidow #youcandoit #youcanmakeitonyourown #widowedparentadventures Смотреть полностью
Natalie St. John Yesterday’s sunrise woke me out of my sleep-deprived stupor as I dro
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Yesterday’s sunrise woke me out of my sleep-deprived stupor as I drove to my new job. I have been so many kinds of tired in the last (almost) six months; strung out on adrenaline and so sleep-deprived that it hurt to keep my eyes open, but unable to shut them. Completely shattered but too restless to check out. At the very limits of my emotional capacity, utterly wrecked and desolate, physically exhausted from packing and moving, tired of waiting for the other shoe to drop, tired of my own company, alternately so sad I couldn’t get out of bed and desperately sick and tired of being sad. I can’t go over it, can’t go under it, can’t go around it. Have to go through it. I’m trying to remain open to the complex tangle of feelings I have to feel so I can come out the other side in one piece. But I’m about sick of the frankly pretty self-absorbed and isolating process of grieving. The time after suffering a profound loss feels like living inside a sugar egg. Everyone is afraid that the least pressure will make your whole world shatter, even though it already did. A couple friends have recently opened up to me about challenges they’re facing, and I felt embarrassingly relieved to get out of my head and think about someone else’s problems for a while. I’m so sorry they’re struggling, but thankful they allowed me to carry a tiny piece of their burdens for them, touched that they don’t think I’m too broken to listen. I’ve just started working again, cleaning and cooking part time at a fishing lodge for a few weeks. It’s a whole new kind of tired — split shifts, long hours, physical work, a 30-minute drive on a dangerous road late at night and early in the morning. But it’s pure providence I got this very decent gig after moving here with zero plan. A big mental adjustment after months of pure stupefaction, but I am thankful to be back among the living. #griefjourney #widow #widowedandyoung #grief #sunrise #pnw Смотреть полностью
Nadja Ensink - Teich Once a year all of Jeroen’s friends come together to celebrate the w
Netherlands
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Once a year all of Jeroen’s friends come together to celebrate the winner of the seasons virtual football cup, the winner gets the engraved cup and the loser the wooden spoon... It’s been a tradition for more than 20 years and the bond of friendship they share is really quite special, wherever Jeroen was based he always returned for the annual BBQ. The year after Jeroen passed away, his friends dedicated the cup to him and we got to take it home for a year. And we’re invited every year to come along. A day like this is hard and lovely at the same time. Jeroen is so clearly missed, we all talk about him and share stories and laugh. I’m feeling blessed to be part of this group of friends but Jeroen’s absence is cruel on days like this. I’m exhausted, physically and emotionally, and our 7th wedding anniversary tomorrow is hanging over me like black cloud... #widowed #widowedmom #widowedandyoung #love #loss #grief #dealingwithloss #itsokaytonotbeokay #saytheirname #sayhisname #gratefulwhilegrieving #grieveandloss #griefsucks #loveandloss #grieveandlove #grievingchild #griefjourney #livingwithloss #livingwithgrief #healingjourney #souljourney #findingpeace #newnormal #lovegoeson #lifeafterloss Смотреть полностью
 #yup #grief #widow #widower #johnpolo #sitdownandshutup #grievingwife
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#yup #grief #widow #widower #johnpolo #sitdownandshutup #grievingwife #grie vingsucks #lonely #sad #sorrow #missingyou #myhusband #soulmate #why #cry #gjf #widows #widowsofinstagram #widowedandyoung #soulmatesforever Смотреть полностью
Life Unexpected Day 345 - some days you’ve got a teething baby and all you can do is
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Day 345 - some days you’ve got a teething baby and all you can do is cuddle them. This #singleparent life is often with half an eye on the next thing - the next meal, thoughts of when and how the dog is being walked, what you’ve run out of etc etc. I always try to make time to actively play with baby R or sit with him when he’s eating but actually time to cuddle isn’t always that easy to come by if it’s not bedtime or first thing in the morning. And sometimes the grief means you just want to sit/ lie on your own and feel a bit miserable. But today he’s falling asleep finally after feeling rubbish, I’m half reading a book but we are cuddling and making the most of this moment (and hoping the calpol kicks in 🤞🏽). Why are teeth so totally troublesome?! 🦷 #widow #youngwidow #widowedandyoung #grief #loneparent #beingmumanddad #griefandloss #griefjourney #afternoonnap #teethingbaby Смотреть полностью
 I wanted to write a post yesterday. Sept. 12, 2017 was the first time
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I wanted to write a post yesterday. Sept. 12, 2017 was the first time I ever called 9-1-1 for Matt, the first time I felt like a caregiver rather than a wife (though it would take months to realize this transition). But the day got away from me. I ran out of time and energy and the strength it takes to collect my thoughts enough to compose a sentence. I forgot. The kids frequently tell me I forget everything. I often joke that I’m scatterbrained. But the truth of this young widow life is that I’m in a dozen directions at once, trying desperately to stay afloat. At any given moment I'm hoping I remember to confirm the mortgage was paid on time and investigate why spots on the lawn are turning brown, to book a sitter for back-to-school night and change the lightbulbs that have blown out in the living room, to check homework and buy paper towels and make sure we have something somewhat appropriate for school lunches. I'm chastising myself for forgetting to return a phone call, stealing extra minutes to meet deadlines, and trying to remember where I left my coffee cup for the third time. And all those thoughts, all those things to do and remember, will probably be dismissed from my mind the moment an ambulance, sirens blaring, passes by and sends me reeling back in time to a date two years ago and a life during which ambulances and 9-1-1 calls prevailed. This week was the kind of week that felt like a whirlwind, like I was a top spinning from one task to the next without truly stopping to breathe or acknowledge the dozen things falling through the cracks. It was the kind of week during which mail piled up, and bad news poured in, and I needed help, when I had to admit (again) that I'm not super human, despite wishing to be. It was also the kind of week when old friends met me out for a drink, listened to my stress, and then handed me a (forebodingly) pink shot and reminded me how it felt to just have fun, when new friends stepped in and made sure my kids didn't miss the annual father-child camping trip though it meant more work for them, when the clouds cleared and the full moon lit the night and for a moment it felt okay to be something less than super human. Смотреть полностью
Allyson 🍁 Crowell Just a kind reminder...don’t tell people God won’t give them more
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Just a kind reminder...don’t tell people God won’t give them more than they can handle. _ This isn’t Biblical. _ 1 Corinthians 10:13 is not talking about Him not giving you too much. It’s about temptation and Him providing a way out. _ Too much will be put on you at some point in your life. Because otherwise, why would your human flesh even need God? _ If you’re currently in that season...I’m praying for you today. It’s exhausting and overwhelming. Breaths seem shallow and weak. Seeing beyond the fog laden situation is not only difficult, but impossible. _ God wants to meet you in this thick blinding uneasy pressure-filled moment, hour, day, week, month, year. _ It’s as simple as calling out to Him. No prerequisites of perfection required. _ He’s the only light that can break through that kind of darkness. Смотреть полностью
Nate Ottë These were among the last selfies of us she posted, at the wedding of
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These were among the last selfies of us she posted, at the wedding of two friends one year ago today, who I am not tagging so as not to rain on their celebration, but they know who they are and they have all my best wishes for their first anniversary. Hindsight certainly is 20/20. A lot can happen in a year. A month. A week. A day. Even the briefest of moments. Leave nothing to chance and take nothing for granted. #carpediem #widowhood #widowedandyoung #widowhoodsucks #oneyearago Смотреть полностью
Life Unexpected Day 344 - I’ve had this sign up in the kitchen for about 6 months -
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Day 344 - I’ve had this sign up in the kitchen for about 6 months - every party we ever had ended up with kitchen dancing. That’s the sign of a good life, right? I haven’t felt a connection to it for a while but at the end of the working week and some really difficult pre-anniversary times, while I make baby R some dinner and wait for mates (and most importantly wine and snacks) - I’ve got a classic ‘80s soundtrack on and baby R and I are dancing. He’s basically marching on the spot, laughing and it’s great. He’s the best dancer. Happy Friday all - let’s hope this weekend is kind to us all - more dancing less bad times please 🕺🏽💃 #widow #youngwidow #widowedandyoung #kitchendancing #grief #bereavement #griefjourney #weekend #dancingistherapy Смотреть полностью
Kitty G PUSH THROUGHI did a big thing today. I looked at my little girl happ
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PUSH THROUGH I did a big thing today. I looked at my little girl happily playing with her farm set given to her by my lovely boyfriend and I saw my present and future so clearly. I've had a hard time letting Brendan's belongings go because I hold a lot of guilt and anything of his I let go makes me feel like I am throwing him away. But today I rang a charity furniture collection and arranged for them to pick up his wardrobe. It was a big deal and I have tried to do it so many times before but today was the right time. I pushed through whatever it was that has been holding me back. I also made the decision to go to therapy because, whilst I am not mourning my marriage, I am definitely suffering from the trauma of his death and finding him. I've always done my 'spring clean' in autumn and this year that includes my mind. . . . . . #springclean #freshstart #mentalhealth #itsok #therapy #movingforward #widow #widowedandyoung #widowhood #malesuicide #survivorofsuicide #suicide #suicideawareness #motherhood #mumlife #mummydiaries #familyblog #toddlermum #simplymotherhood #ig_motherhood #mynameismama #mymotherhood #instablog #teammotherly #mumblog #themumcrew #instablog #thisismotherhood #motherhood #happymama Смотреть полностью
Widowed and Young
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"In a single moment, our whole lives changed..." Thanks to @Chat_Magazine for sharing the moving story of WAY member Mark Wilcock, whose wife Katherine died when their baby was just 8 months old. Katherine used to say 'no rain, no rainbows' and Mark lives by that mantra today #NoRainNoRainbows #widowedandyoung #bereavement #grief #Fridaymotivation Смотреть полностью
Sarah Power-Smith “Everything happens for a reason”.I have had a few people say th
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“Everything happens for a reason” . I have had a few people say this to me since Jeff’s passing. At first it pissed me off. . Like really? Oh yeah 🙄 I’m sure there’s a fantastic reason for my husband to have died at age 44, leaving behind his wife and 4 young children😐 . In recent months I have gained new perspective. Here’s how I see it... . “Everything happens for a reason” does not mean that you have to accept that there was some universal plan that your person was supposed to die. . It means because of that shittiness happening, you are learning lessons you never would have. You are forced out of your comfort zone. . Whether that is learning to set boundaries or buy a new car on your own for the first time or guiding your kid through decisions about his future or figuring out how to repair a fence that your neighbours dogs have chewed through.... . There are SO MANY things that I have had to learn. Lessons I have been FORCED to wade my way through as a result of Jeff’s passing. . You have a choice. . I choose to believe these are lessons I needed to face to grow and to feel a sense of pride and confidence. . In all honesty, I never used to believed I was capable of doing hard things. . Guess what. I can. . #youngwidow #widowedandyoung #widow #momof4kids #momof4 #motherof4 #lifelessons #fuxkcancer #perspective #widowshelpingwidows #widowsupport Смотреть полностью
Life Unexpected Day 343 - anyone else struggling with having literally everything to d
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Day 343 - anyone else struggling with having literally everything to do alone? I am tired today. Really tired. It’s been a long week and every time I try and do anything I want to do it seems we get hit by illness, teething, some unexpected life admin, something breaking - it’s literally exhausting. I know it will probably be better in the morning, I am practiced at self care now, I know I need to eat, rest etc but really it is exhausting. Having a day where it all seems completely and utterly unfair. It doesn’t seem so - it is. I didn’t ask to have half a family and carry this burden alone. And I know I can’t do anything about the past and I am where I am but today I’m knackered. So solidarity to all the other knackered #widows and #widowers - kids or no kids - this relentless life coupled with grief is just knackering. And that’s all this is - solidarity in tiredness and life is unfairness tonight. But on a side note - this napping app is good! Dunno why but the sound of rain and a smiling cat actually helped me to nap - who would have predicted that?! 👍🏽😺 #widow #youngwidow #widowedandyoung #tired #exhausted #grief #griefjourney #griefandloss #beingmumanddad #singleparent #loneparent #lifeisunfair Смотреть полностью
Natalie St. John Knee-High Levi Poindexter Dandersnuffle is practicing for winter. I fo
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Knee-High Levi Poindexter Dandersnuffle is practicing for winter. I found him this way in his chair yesterday evening. When we adopted our mutts, there were two of us. Now it’s me and them against the world. Or, more ideally, in sync with the world. It’s a work in progress. It’s tough at times. Yesterday Hazel went after a cat and ripped out the clothesline her lead was clipped to. Tonight I came home late from prepping for guests at the lodge and discovered I’d left a brand new package of rawhide sticks on the table. Guess whose twelve-pound dog ate an entire bag of rawhides? I was half tempted to induce vomiting to prevent the inevitable three a.m. barfing sesh. They exhaust and overwhelm me at times, but they are still my heart of hearts. Levi makes up for being a turdburglar by nestling into the crook of my arm and falling asleep with his chin on my shoulder every night. They make sure I am never truly alone. #widow #widowedandyoung #dog #dogsofinstagram #grief #rescuedog Смотреть полностью
Young Widow I’ve been struggling to get back into the flow of things since schoo
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I’ve been struggling to get back into the flow of things since school went back last week. I’ve spent the last two days in the company of inspirational and empowering women and have been supported and understood by them all (thank you Linda Robertson too 🥰). Surround yourself with people that reflect who you want to be and how you want to feel. Energies are contagious 😊. How do you want to feel....? Смотреть полностью
Life Unexpected Day 342 - tonight Bo dog had a friend (Mist) over for dinner. I made h
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Day 342 - tonight Bo dog had a friend (Mist) over for dinner. I made her human a roast lamb dish from the #quickroastingtin by @missminifer (really amazing) and plum and apple crumble. Mist’s human has walked Bo twice a week since G died. Faithfully and gladly. This has been such a massive help to me and it’s been done quietly and with such kindness. We’ve known each other a long time but this act has been so incredibly helpful and so selfless. And I might not be able to buy everyone fancy dinners as a #singlemum but I feel liberated being able to say thank you with a home cooked meal for someone so kind 💙 #widow #youngwidow #widowedandyoung #grief #griefjourney #griefandloss #bereavement #homecooking #dinner #plumcrumble #crumble #lambchops #roastingtin #goodfood Смотреть полностью
Cremation ashes Jewellery Rainbow babies are so special. The loss of a child is something no one
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Rainbow babies are so special. The loss of a child is something no one can know if they haven’t experienced it,-and sadly we know this from experience. Our fine Jewellery does not use planet damaging resin or glass - instead, all our work is fine Jewellery Made With natural rock crystal, sapphire or conflict free diamond slices. We can fine combine Ash, hair and breast milk for you, to capture your special and precious memories, a life long reminder of your baby, always with you. Contact us to know more. We are Artemis. Our memorial Jewellery is Unlike any other worldwide, our jewellery is not made of glass or toxic plastic resin. We use only beautiful natural precious stones, including rock crystal quartz sapphire and diamond, bonded with your cremation ash, and set into handmade English silver gold and platinum settings in our UK workshop. Call helpline on (01636) 611001, To see how we can help you or visit us in Newark or our link in bio #deathanddying #nottingham #infantloss #babyloss #rainbowbabykeepsake #memorialjewellery #lifeanddeath #childloss #worlddeathrituals #widowedandyoung #bereavedmother #deathritual #ashmemorials #ashkeepsake #ashpendant #ashring #ashjewellery #cremationashjewellery #cremationashkeepsake #bereavement #comfortingrief #griefandloss #ashesjewellery #lifeanddeath #ashmemorial Смотреть полностью
Maya Tyler-Author So in my travels and  many convos with widows all across the country (
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So in my travels and many convos with widows all across the country (and the web!) and I've compiled the most popular answers to questions a lot of friends and families tend not to ...naturally think of when it comes to how to REALLY HELP their widowed family member or BFF. 🙋🙋🏾⠀ ⠀ We get it! We know you love us!! We know you're trying!! But here are some tips that might be able to help you help us (if you so desire!) a little bit better!! ❤️⠀ ⠀ #6 . The "Bringing Food" Thing: ⠀ It is awesome that people think to prepare and bring dinners for a person who is stricken with grief and may not have the energy or desire to cook for themselves or even children. The only problem is, if its not something that is packaged in a way where it can be frozen and eaten later (cakes, big casserole pans that don't fit in most freezers, pudding, etc.) most likely it will sit out or not get eaten. ⠀ ⠀ Solution? ⠀ ⠀ -Freezable food!!🍖🍗🥘⠀ -Packaged in smaller ( fits in most freezers) ⠀ - Throw away / one-time use containers (so our widow friend doesn't drown in random Tupperware sets)⠀ -One pot meals! So we can eat some, and freeze it again for another day!⠀ ⠀ Hope this blesses someone! 🙌 Смотреть полностью
Grief support and services The unpredictable nature of death means we will all at some point lose
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The unpredictable nature of death means we will all at some point lose someone we love. . Losing someone you love means missing certain aspects of their personality that brightened up your day. . What do you miss most about your loved one? . #missingyou 😢 #misshimsomuch #widowspeak #widowedandyoung #loss #widowlove #griefsurvivor #hearttoheart #copingwithloss #losingsomeone #losingasibling #losingasister #sadnessandsorrow #losingasibling #losingafriendishard #losingachild #losingapregnancy #losingaparent #lostlovedones #sorrow #sorrowandgrief #morethangrief #mourning #bereavement #bereavedfamilies Смотреть полностью
Life Unexpected Day 342 - after a rainy and bleak nursery run, which I need to redo in
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Day 342 - after a rainy and bleak nursery run, which I need to redo in an hour to get back for a health visitor appointment, I’m considering treating myself to this. I used to be such an avid reader and I got so much comfort from being able to lose reality in book. I remember sitting on a widow ledge at home when I was a child and just reading and reading to the point of almost falling off - reading on buses, in queues, when things were good and when they were bad. Since G died I’ve really struggled to read again - which I know is normal - but I miss it. I want some escapism. The run up to the anniversary is hard and each passing day brings more anxiety and dread and I would like a reading space that helps me forget the real world - fingers crossed this is it. I remember being totally absorbed reading the Handmaid’s Tale as a teenager - picked off the shelf at home - no idea what to expect but I would literally read anything. Popular fiction, science books, manuals. I’m hoping this will be just as good and the book that opens the door to a much needed and familiar form of escapism - the hope that there’s something else out there - undeniably, what every dreary Wednesday needs 👍🏽 📚 #widow #youngwidow #widowedandyoung #grief #griefjourney #griefandloss #handmaidstale #margaretatwood #thetestaments #reading #books #escapism Смотреть полностью
Natalie St. John I had a rough day for no particular reason, other than that there is n
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I had a rough day for no particular reason, other than that there is no instruction manual or schedule for getting through this shit. When D died, my cousin @nancyneil , who is many things but never, ever boring, kept telling me, “Be a queen. Be a queen.” I laughed, but it wasn’t bad advice. I try to navigate my grief with some modicum of queenly serenity and grace, but some days the crown just keeps sliding off my head. Like when I am trying, at 5’2”, to figure out how to get a jam explosion off the ceiling without falling off the counter. Or when I’m trying to get up in the morning and be awesome but I’m totally overwhelmed and haven’t slept well in a week. The silt in the river is settling, so maybe I’ll get to work and burn off some anxiety and feel a hint of normalcy returning to my world. In the meantime, there is a giant hill in front of my house and I decided to climb it this evening, and maybe every evening until I can at least handle a little elevation change with queenly dignity. One foot in front of the other. #widow #widowedandyoung #grief #pnw #gooutside Смотреть полностью
Natalie St. John My family, helping me get through August 10, 2019. They made sure I di
Huntington Beach, California
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My family, helping me get through August 10, 2019. They made sure I didn’t have to face my Not-Wedding alone, and for that I’ll always be grateful. My mom is the youngest of nine (thanks, Catholicism!). Her father had about as many siblings, many of whom produced enough kids to field a soccer team. There are Schultzes spread across the land. Like any huge family, mine has its share of complexities and rivalries, but when the shit hits the fan, my aunties, uncles and cousins assemble like The Avengers. Instead of magical weapons, they bring hilarity, fierce love and booze. Definitely booze. Most of us forgot to be Catholic years ago, as evidenced by that time my grandma died and we were all trying to fake our way through the rosary service because we couldn’t remember most of the Rosary and we got the giggles and the ancient Irish priest got pissed and got all stingy with the communion wafers because we didn’t go to catechism. But we’re still doing our best to be the loud, slightly unruly clan of Irish stereotype reinforcers the Blessed Mother intended us to be. #family #widow #widowedandyoung #bonfire #failedcatholics #IhavemorecousinsthanIcancount Смотреть полностью
Nate Ottë When you take on a single parent as your significant other, the person
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When you take on a single parent as your significant other, the person you call your partner is only part of the package. As great as she is for me, and as much as we enjoy and love each other, I could never be with someone who isn’t just as good for my boy, which she understands completely. She has succeeded in establishing a rapport with Lennon and is a huge help when it comes to him, even staying with me for the entire month of July “playing house” while my folks were out of town. How lucky are Lennon and I to have the universe send us an earthly angel who loves us both the way she does? Only one of many reasons it’s become impossible to not love her, but it’s among the most important. Here’s to you @maristhesis , thank you for all you are 💗#kids #toddlers #dadlife #dadsofinstagram #singledad #son #myson #singleparent #widowedandyoung #girlfriend #love #newchapter #earthangel #blessed #stillblessed Смотреть полностью
Hayley Crawshaw Choose love, always. I wanted to talk about this subject as it’s som
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Choose love, always. I wanted to talk about this subject as it’s something young widows tend to talk about only in private, for fear of being judged. If we even suggest that we want to love and be loved as a partner again, in some warped way it’s seen by some as a dismissal of our love for our special person who died. I will always love Rich with every ounce of my being, but I have a humongous heart and want to love and be loved like that, by a living, breathing person, again. I’m not talking about physical intimacy so much – platonic hugs go a long way, and God invented ‘neck massagers’ for a reason, but humans are hard wired to connect emotionally and intellectually. I know that it can never be the same as it was with Rich, and I would never expect it to be, not least because I’m a different person now, but I do want to care, and nurture and be there for someone, and experience the same in return, in the way that Rich and I were there for each other. I know full well that men don’t queue up to date young widows, not least because we tend to turn into warrior women and are seen as scary by those who can’t see the soft centres beneath the armour. It’d also take someone special to accept that I will always love Rich, but my goodness of course it’s possible to love more than one human at a time! Any thoughts young widow friends? #grief #bereavement #griefandloss #youngwidow #love #widowedandyoung #widowed Смотреть полностью
Jill M Swillum “Once you walk through pain, you may never be able to unsee pain aga
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“Once you walk through pain, you may never be able to unsee pain again. It’s all over us, and on her face, and in his voice. At first, this will feel like a chink in your armor. But later, this will become your armor. And you will walk straight into the thick of someone else’s pain because Jesus Christ walked into yours.” 👣 facing our battles one day at a time 👣I’ve mentioned it before but this page is not to make a show of my pain or what I’m going through, but I want to be an encouragement for anyone who is dealing with adversity. If seeing my journey helps you in anyway, I thank God for using the story He wrote for my life for His glory. 👣all for the glory of our creator. #widow #youngwidow #christianwidow #widowedandyoung #christian #journeyingrief #loss #lifeafterloss #lifeinloss #lifethroughloss #lifeingrief #strength #godsstrengthnotmine #triumphovertragedy #godsplannotmine #myunexpectedjourney #alegacyoffaith #widowhood #widowsupport #widowsofinstagram Смотреть полностью
Widowed and Young Thinking of all those who have been #bereaved by suicide on #WorldSuic
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Thinking of all those who have been #bereaved by suicide on #WorldSuicidePr eventionDay. WAY Widowed & Young is there to support anyone in the UK who's lost a partner at a young age - whatever the circumstances. Find out more at http://ow.ly/Jq5r50uWBpx #youarenotalone #Charity #bereavementsupport #widowedandyoung #widowedyoung #widower #widowed #WAY #WAYWidowedandYoung Смотреть полностью
 Yesterday the song “Someone You Loved,” by @lewiscapaldi came on i
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Yesterday the song “Someone You Loved,” by @lewiscapaldi came on in the car. G and I were in the middle of an intense conversation, deciding whether she needed (yet another) doctor’s appointment for a lingering cough and cold, and H interrupted the conversation. He said, “This song reminds me of Daddy.” On instinct my hand went to the radio volume and I asked if he wanted me to turn it off. He said no. I put my hand back on the steering wheel, and G and I returned to our conversation. I didn’t pause long enough in the moment then. It took me until this morning to recognize the significance of those few exchanged words. Usually, G and H turn off the songs, close their eyes to block out the cancer billboards that seem to be inescapable on New Jersey highways, and hide from the things that might make them remember more. They avoid the #grief triggers. Yesterday, H didn’t. #amwriting #loss #grieving #newnormal #grievingheart #greymatters #livingafterloss #widowlife #ourstory #mystory #writersofig #love #writingabook #writinginspiration #writer #writersofinstagram #moments #motherhood #youngandwidowed #widowedandyoung #griefandloss Смотреть полностью
That Insufferable Texan 😍ridiculously handsome 😍 I always felt like the luckiest person
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😍ridiculously handsome 😍 I always felt like the luckiest person in the room since he was with me. Looking at him always felt to me like he had his own spotlight- everyone else was always less visible and out of focus in comparison. I guess that’s what it is to be in love? He was outshining everyone else in my line of vision since 1997. Even now, his memory is still enough to continue to outshine the rest. #skipbrooks #hywc #griefjourney #stillkickinco #stillkickin #widowedandyoung Смотреть полностью
Life Unexpected Day 341 - I’m still on leave but it’s definitely back to chores. I
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Day 341 - I’m still on leave but it’s definitely back to chores. It’s taking time to process everything we’ve done but I find once I’m back in a routine carving out that time is hard, as once again we were back into the 7am nursery run and life as we know it now. I’ve been to aldi and Sainsbury’s this morning - topped up nappies, food and washing stuff so we can start on the relentless home stuff. While I was waiting for a thing I had ordered, I had a brief moment of peace and a vivid flashback to G standing in front of where I was sitting, hands in pockets, waiting and then that deep Cumbrian lilting voice as he spoke to the cashier. Takes your breath away to remember when you least expect it #widow #youngwidow #grief #griefandloss #griefjourney #bereavement #widowedandyoung Смотреть полностью
Natalie St. John Little Cattle Dog on the Prairie. This is the view from the back yard
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Little Cattle Dog on the Prairie. This is the view from the back yard at my new “office,” a fly-fishing lodge where I’m cleaning and cooking for the next few weeks. Or, rather, will be, if the river isn’t “all Willy Wonka-ed,” as my boss puts it. Storms this week have brought a sudden end to a long stretch of hot, dry fire weather. They’ve also made the river so full of silt it looks like chocolate milk. As it turns out, people don’t want to pay $1,000 for a weekend of Not Fishing. This afternoon I cleaned the lodge with my canine shadow in tow, just in case. It’s all trees and rocky precipices and river down in the canyon but up here, it’s farmland and high prairie and marshes that stretch in one contiguous golden carpet toward the sweep of Mt. Adams, with its fringe of pine and crown of glaciers. We took some time to smell the gophers, to watch the dazzling murmuration of swifts at sunset. Haze made friends with the owner and a hunter/guest and quickly took over security patrol. “She’s a good dog,” the boss said, “if it came down to it, she’d probably kill for you.” There’s a reason I call her my “battle dog.” It matters more now that I don’t have the veneer of security that came with being partnered; “legitimized” as a human courtesy of my connection to a man. I make sure the weirdos see her walking by my side everywhere I go. She’s been known to bare her teeth at creeps just for looking at me. Yup, she’s a Crazy Hazie, but she has been through hell and she is fierce and loving and loyal and brave and loves wide open spaces the way I do. Just before we left, a skunk sprayed right in front of the lodge. I nearly hit another one on the drive home. Cold clear moonlight on the hairpin turns of the single-lane Highway. My co-pilot stood on her hind legs, head out the window, taking it all in. A song I hadn’t heard in years made me cry because I just started listening to music again and it cracks me open. But my dog gurus remind me, there is so much so much life; so much living to be done and we cannot afford to miss a second of it. #widow #widowedandyoung #dogsofinstagram #flyfishing #gooutside Смотреть полностью
Allyson 🍁 Crowell What have I done to deserve love like this?What have I done to deserv
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What have I done to deserve love like this? What have I done to deserve love like this? I cannot earn what You so freely give What have I done to deserve love like this? _________________________________________________________ Lauren Daigle “Love Like This” https://youtu.be/U7eyU9EPGWo _________________________________________________________ I’ve listened to and sang this song for right over a year now 🎵. I look at our Huxlee Bear and am so in awe of the most perfect gift. And I find myself asking God the question these lyrics pose. _ The truth is no matter my past or the ridiculously hard roads taken, I don’t “deserve” any of the things He has given me over the years. And I hate to be the one to burst your bubble or step on your toes, but neither do you. But it wasn’t until I could grasp this...the fact that I wasn’t “owed” anything because of my sorrow and heartaches...that I was able to appreciate each and every single one for what they truly are. Gifts. From my Nonny to our Huxlee, although much tragedy brought me to them both, they weren’t “deserved”...they were GIFTED by the Ultimate Giver of Gifts. _ When I/we choose to see blessings that way, we release ourselves from said expectations of this world and dance into a glimpse of heaven ✨. _________________________________________________________ I’ve now tucked my boys in bed and that one in the middle will turn the BIG 1️⃣ tomorrow! . . We are PRAISING GOD for 9/10/2018 and every year He will allow us after! . . And although this Mama was pushing this life into the world at 12:40 am as the night tip toed into the next day last year...tonight she knows she’s pushing it if she doesn’t get her tail to bed in order to keep up with this boy tomorrow on his birthday 🎉🥳! . . . (I wrote that above about the lyrics in another post when Huxlee was only a few weeks old...Lauren Daigle’s albums have meant so much to me in countless seasons of life.) Смотреть полностью
Life Unexpected Day 340 - the only thing you can possibly really need after an emotion
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Day 340 - the only thing you can possibly really need after an emotional rollercoaster and your first major road trip. Thank you to everyone who sent me strength and love during it and to the beautiful soul who gave me this deep sleep bath bomb from @lush - it’s melted away some of that tension and stress that appears when you get home and start to decompress and look at the looming pile of laundry and chaos around you. Especially when you know it’s only you facing it. It smelt divine. Even if baby R’s duck mit is a slightly sinister bath companion - fingers crossed for sleep 🦆 #widow #youngwidow #widowedandyoung #grief #griefjourney #bath #bathbomb #sleep #sleepritual #griefandloss #beingmumanddad Смотреть полностью
Jill M Swillum Waiting on the Lord requires patience. This means we are also expectin
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Waiting on the Lord requires patience. This means we are also expecting that His promise of STRENGTH will lift us above our trials of life. Regaining my trust in the Lord after the loss of my husband has taken time, and I’m still working on it, but it allows us to open up our hearts to hear when He speaks to us. To ACCEPT the strength that we NEED to survive this life we now face after loss. • Waiting for the circumstances in our lives to change is hard. But we need to be patient and trust. Trust the unknown future to a KNOW God. • Nothing will fall into place instantaneously but when it does...that’s when we might catch a small glimpse of His plan for our lives. • Trusting all of me to all of him. • The unknown will become known. • #widow #youngwidow #christianwidow #widowedandyoung #christian #journeyingrief #loss #lifeafterloss #lifeingrief #strength #godsstrengthnotmine #triumphovertragedy #godsplannotmine #myunexpectedjourney #alegacyoffaith #widowhood #widowsupport #widowsofinstagram Смотреть полностью
 I’ve come far from those darkest initial days of grief—at least I
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I’ve come far from those darkest initial days of grief—at least I think I have. In the earliest, darkest days, I could hardly open Facebook—it hurt too much to see the posts from happy families whose lives had not been destroyed. Now, I can open Facebook (most days) without the squeeze of heartache. (I can even start an Instagram account 😳.) In those early dark days, I couldn’t go out with friends without crying, doubling over as the sobs racked my body, once I got home. Now, I can go out with friends and breathe through the tightness that might climb up my throat when a memory hits. Then, I couldn’t read. I still can’t. I’ve read exactly two books cover to cover in the last nineteen months. Before grief, I’d read two or three books a week. At heart, I am a reader. As a child, I remember wandering the stacks in the public library, searching for the perfect book. I read everything from Mary Higgins Clark to The Giver. Books were my escape from life. For a few hours I could be someone else, be somewhere else. But books have not helped me escape my grief. In a cruel plot twist, my grief has stolen my ability to read and, despite all the strides forward, all the things I can now do which I could not during the darkest days, I still cannot read a book. Every week, I dutifully go to the library and choose a new book. Every week, I dutifully (or sometimes not so dutifully because #widowbrain ) open the book, stare at the words for a bit, and then return that book and vow to check it out again once my ability to read returns. Which it will. Eventually. Of that I am sure. In the meantime, I’ll keep checking out books, keep reading two pages at a time on my Kindle, keep listening to @audible books. Because I’ve lost a lot in the last two years, and I don’t want to let grief steal any more. I hope it won’t. Смотреть полностью
Stephanie Nimmo That’s the closest I’ll get to a doorstep photo of my son on his w
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That’s the closest I’ll get to a doorstep photo of my son on his way to his first day of a three year professional chef diploma. Following in the footsteps of #jamieoliver but more importantly following his dreams. His dad would have been so proud. Another bittersweet milestone. Feeling the emotions today. It will be my Wedding Anniversary on Thursday and so the season of all the difficult anniversaries: Andy, Daisy, my dad, begins..... #WasThisinThePlan #grief #goodbyedaisy #widowedandyoung #childloss Смотреть полностью
Hypnobirthing / Oxfordshire My biggest challenge in life has been nothing to do with my hypnobirth
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My biggest challenge in life has been nothing to do with my hypnobirthing business but tells you a little bit more about me...... I am an avid supporter of the charity Bloodwise. I raise money in memory of my late husband Steve! I lost Steve when I was only 28 and my daughters were only 3 and 5 years old. He was only 30. I therefore am challenging myself to raise £30000 in his memory. I am 90% there already. If you would like to help me my just giving link is https://www.justgiving.com/fundraising/emma-cornish2 #thelittlebirthcompany #bloodwise #acutemyeloidleukaemia #widowedandyoung #challenge #hypnobirthingclasses#septemberkickstart Смотреть полностью
Life Unexpected Day 340 - about to try and finish our journey home today. This trip ha
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Day 340 - about to try and finish our journey home today. This trip has been cathartic on many levels - sad, a reminder to myself of what courage actually is, a chance to reflect and a moment to look back on a picture like this from the weekend and think not only of all that is missing but also that the smile on my face is genuine and 11 and a half months ago, nobody could have known if that was possible. People tell you that it will happen but really they don’t know - this is your journey, your mountain to climb, your memories, your mental strength - there’s no set outcome and if I wasn’t able to smile now I wouldn’t think any less of me knowing what this journey is like. My smiles sit alongside tears and unlike the me of 10 years ago, there’s a knowingness of what hell is to everything I feel and think - I’m not carefree but I am still trying to live this life - I hope that Monday is good to us all who find ourselves learning to smile again 💙 #widow #youngwidow #widowedandyoung #grief #griefjourney #griefandloss #bereavement #cardiacriskintheyoung #walks #scotland Смотреть полностью
hannah Bradford This weekend has been so full of love and laughter and my whole villag
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This weekend has been so full of love and laughter and my whole village coming together to celebrate my precious little miracle. My heart has soared seeing the joy on his face and hearing our house full of conversations and jokes. And yet, my heart has been so heavy with the absence of my Joe. He would have loved the party, loved being surrounded by our family and friends, loved watching Jack play with the new generation of BFFs. Jack's first birthday is such a milestone in so many ways. As a teacher, the new school year is such a marker of time passing, and then this huge marker just after has been quite a roller coaster of emotions. My grief has been manifesting as intense anxiety the last few weeks, but as I sit in the silence, my nerves are less frazzled as the anxiety ebbs and the deep, steady grief tide comes back in. Somehow the silence seems even more profound after the noise of yesterday. Our little life is so quiet, which I mostly appreciate, but Lord, I would give anything for one more second of that larger and louder than life presence I miss so steadfastly and so deeply. A million thanks to everyone who loves on Jack and I this weekend. A million thanks to all those who are here for us and pray for us and care for us. A million thanks especially for those who help me keep Joe's memory alive. #griefisweird #griefjourney #loss #lifeafterloss #widow #widowedandyoung #widowedmom #soloparenting #grief Смотреть полностью
Young Widow Loving the glitter ✨. It’s still on now after a bath, swimming and
Hatfield Forest
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Loving the glitter ✨. It’s still on now after a bath, swimming and a shower 😂
Danni Randall Huge thank you for all the birthday love. Was dreading my first birthd
Boughton Monchelsea
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Huge thank you for all the birthday love. Was dreading my first birthday without my gorgeous hubby, however all the love shown to me has certainly made the day easier. #thankfulandgrateful #blessed #thankyou #birthday #happybirthday #lookingforwards #love #family #lucky #missingmyhubby #widowedandsurviving #widowedandyoung Смотреть полностью
Life Unexpected Day 339 - slowly making my way back south. Stopped at Rosslyn chapel -
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Day 339 - slowly making my way back south. Stopped at Rosslyn chapel - I came here years ago with G when we did a road trip to see family and up to the far north to where his dad is from. We never went in, so I did today. And amidst a million tourists, I sat at the back of the chapel and cried like I was the only person there. Possibly the first time I’ve been in a church since the funeral and after a weekend that was epic for me in so many ways, it felt necessary. First long drive, first real trip I’ve chosen to make and not been forced to do, an obvious gap for G at dinners and walks and family photos - set against funny moments, family jokes, feeling loved and wanted and watching baby R light up rooms. It’s the growing tension as time marches on of making room for your loss and sadness, alongside choosing to live life again. I love Scotland. I love being outside and seeing beautiful things. It makes me feel closer to G and also further away - the two sides to every moment seems to be the way of this new life 💙 #widow #youngwidow #widowedandyoung #grief #griefjourney #griefandloss #rosslynchapel #cardiacriskintheyoung #scotland #lifeandloss Смотреть полностью
 The other day, G and H asked what we had planned for the weekend. I op
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The other day, G and H asked what we had planned for the weekend. I opened my calendar and saw only blank space, hours to fill. The usual mix of birthday parties and family obligations and errands was missing. I felt the panic rise, felt the weight of the secondary losses pile on with cruel speed: Matt was supposed to be here to fill those empty hours; Matt was supposed to be here so I didn’t have to spend an entire weekend without another adult to talk with; Matt was supposed to be the best friend I got to share knowing looks with over the kids’ heads. That familiar loneliness, that intense isolation that comes with being a young #widow , burrowed into my heart. Those familiar thoughts—I can’t do this alone; I don’t want to do this alone—filled my mind. But staying home, doing nothing, wasn’t an option. Not with G and H, who shouldn’t miss out on experiences and fun and memories with friends. I opened my laptop and typed in “things to do in NJ.” Google added the words “this weekend.” G and H crowded around the screen as we searched options. We found something, eventually. We found friends who also had no plans. We spent nearly 7 hours at the #RenaissanceFaire , chasing fairies, applauding magicians, and admiring it all. To my horror (and my friend’s endless delight), I was even called up on stage to assist with a sword and machete act. With shaking hands, a pounding heart, and no shortage of awkwardness, I stood on stage in front of hundreds (dozens?!?) of people—and knew the pre-widow version of me would never have gotten up there. The secondary losses didn’t disappear—I am fairly sure that the next time an empty weekend appears I will not be any more prepared and I will feel the sting of each and every secondary loss again—but the day felt like a step forward. It felt like a reminder of some inherent truth regarding grief and loss and rebuilding a life worth living, writing a story worth telling. It felt like a good day. I suspect that’s how lives are rebuilt...one good day, one fun story, one awkward moment at a time. Смотреть полностью
Grief support and services To the world you were my husband, but to me you were my world. Losing
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To the world you were my husband, but to me you were my world. Losing a spouse changes your life forever. It robs you of time and leaves an unfinished chapter in your life. The death of a spouse can change the direction of your life causing you to stale on heartbreak highway. .................................................................................. Time has no empathy for grief. So we are left to find ways to cope and continue to journey through life without our loved ones. I Loved You Then. I Love You Now. I Grieve You Still. ........................................................................ #sanktogrief #widowedandyoung #widowed #widowedandsurviving #death #loss #copingwithgrief #copingwithloss #widowsupport #strongwidow #loved #griefhealing #trustgodsword #widowedwomen #heartbroken #widowedwarrior #lifeafterloss #bereavement #griefsupport #widowsupport #widowlifesucks #griefisaprocess #griefprocess #griefislove #widowswalk Смотреть полностью
Young Widow Woes How I feel anytime anyone says this now 🙈🤪#widowwoes #youngwido
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How I feel anytime anyone says this now 🙈🤪 #widowwoes #youngwidow #youngwid ows #youngandwidowed #widowedandyoung #widowsofinstagram #grief #loss #griefandloss Смотреть полностью
Life Unexpected Day 338 - and after we went north, we just kept on going. Up in Scotla
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Day 338 - and after we went north, we just kept on going. Up in Scotland with G’s family celebrating his aunt’s 70th birthday. Didn’t think we’d make it - after all the country roads which are a far cry from the city driving I’m used to, I’m amazed that we did but it we were greeted by a wonderful house, amazing views and a super warm welcome. G’s absence is keenly noted and this is his kind of place. Cumbrian born and bred but Scottish through and through. Going for a contemplative walk with a friend while baby R is spoilt and trying to remember past times and make new memories, hard as that is. Plus there’s champagne for when we are back and I’m off driving duty for a good 24 hrs 👍🏽 #widow #youngwidow #adventures #widowedandyoung #grief #griefjourney #bereavement #griefandloss #scotland Смотреть полностью
Addie Fundraising target achieved with One Day to go!All I have to do now i
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Fundraising target achieved with One Day to go! All I have to do now is complete it. Packing the bag and heading to Newcastle soon. This time tomorrow.... 😁 @great_run #greatnorthrun #greatnorthrun2019 #BowelCancerUK #BowelCancer #Widow #YoungWidow #widowedandyoung #meningitissurvivor #meningitis Смотреть полностью
Agnes Adria Weekend Away with friends #widowedandyoung #widowsthatcamp
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Weekend Away with friends #widowedandyoung #widowsthatcamp
The Sisters Grim 💔 Like no one else.#widowsofinstagram #widow #youngwidow #whatgri
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💔 Like no one else. #widowsofinstagram #widow #youngwidow #whatgrieflooksl ike #bitchimawidow #loss #grief #griefjourney #livingafterloss #bereavement #thesistersgrim #heartache #widowed #widowedandyoung #youngandwidowed #wavesofgrief Смотреть полностью
Natalie St. John I came home late from a short trip to Portland, hoping to get some non
Columbia River Gorge
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I came home late from a short trip to Portland, hoping to get some non waterproof stuff back inside before a storm rolled in. Muggy as hell, but no storm in sight. Went to drop my bag and kick off my boots, caught a glimpse of my tired, disheveled ass in the mirror I hardly ever look at. What can I say? I’ve gone feral. Moving to the boonies by myself was probably a weird choice, and it’s really hard sometimes. Who has to figure out how to prune the fruit trees and keep the dogs happy and deal with the scary bugs and budget three hours for grocery store trips and earn money in a place with no jobs and protect herself if the bad guys come and the nearest cop is 50 miles away? Oh yeah, me. The old-timers say it will be a bad winter, so we’ll see how I feel in the spring. But I go to the city for a couple days and then I’m ready to be back in the canyon, carefully avoiding any discussion of politics with my neighbors and learning to keep my own company. Coyote music is good for the soul. #widow #widowedandyoung #grief #movingforward #feralnforty #maybeishouldcombmyhair Смотреть полностью
Louise W H O - L I V E S? W H O - D I E S? W H O - C H O O S E S? I’ve b
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W H O - L I V E S? W H O - D I E S? W H O - C H O O S E S? I’ve been topsy turvy to say the least this week. #widowhood #grief & #parenting , all whilst moving your life forward are a difficult balancing act. Life is hard at times. . . But then I remembered choice. Choice is so powerful. My lovely late husband spoke about this a lot. It was his mantra. His rocket fuel. We all have it in us to choose. No, I did not choose what happened to me. I did and do not choose to experience anxiety, fear & panic. But what I can do is choose how I respond, how I move forward, how I tell the story. . . Death at any age is hard to bear. Death from a disease that is curable, if caught early is even harder to understand. . . So today, I’m laying down the gauntlet. Who lives. Who dies. Sometimes the choice is too little too late. But who tells the story? Who chooses how to respond? Who chooses to turn pain into purpose? . . @unitednations have 17 global goals. One of them is centred around health and well-being. By 2030, they want to reduce by one third, premature mortality from non-communicable diseases (aka #cancer ) through prevention and treatment and promote mental health and well-being. . . They’ve put the mark down in the sand. It’s up to us to choose how we achieve this. We are often so paralysed by fear, we don’t face into our bodies. We are often so paralysed by fear, as our mental well-being is under attack, that we forget to see that we have a choice. . . . I’m about to embark on walking out his legacy. £1 million he said. £1 million to save other people from this disease. To help others who are hurting and broken. To educate those that could so easily be cured. . . @bowelcanceruk this movement is for you. In his name. Who chooses to help me achieve this global goal? Who’s putting their hat in the ring and telling me they’re in? Who is choosing to tell this story? . . I am. Are you? Смотреть полностью
Grief support and services Whether death results from a sudden accident or a sustained illness, i
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Whether death results from a sudden accident or a sustained illness, it always catches us off- guard. Death is so deeply personal and final, nothing can emotionally prepare us for its arrival. With every death, there is loss. With every loss, there will be grief. ........................................................................ #griefquotes . #quotegram #toquotegrief #widowlife #widowedandyoung #loss #widowstrong #strongwidow #death #widowsupportingwidows #followmelike #losingalovedone #followme #love #neverforgetu #lovelivesinmyheart #mylove #griefcommunity #circleoflove #copingwithgrief #copingwithdeath . #tunnelofgrief #morethangrief #losingalovedoneisnevereasy Смотреть полностью
Grief support and services The unique special connection we share with a soulmate is one of the g
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The unique special connection we share with a soulmate is one of the greatest feelings. When a soulmate dies the integrated union is severed. Parts of us are torn to shreds and we are left flailing around with the dilemma of putting the pieces of our life back together again. Sifting through the emotional debris and trying to extract pieces of yourself is the beginning of finding your way through grief. ........................................................................ #misshimsomuch #soulmate #alwayslove #circleoflove #grief #griefsucks #sorrow #neverforgetu #neverforgetloyalty #lifeafterloss #losingaspouse #widowsupport #strongwidow #widowspeak #widowedandsurviving #widowed #widowedandyoung #losingalovedone #copingwithgrief #copingwithloss #widowlove Смотреть полностью
Cremation ashes Jewellery I always think it’s wonderful when something previously unknown come
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I always think it’s wonderful when something previously unknown comes to light after years of being hidden. Northampton once boasted a beautiful convent school, but its pupils dwindled, and the Nuns who staffed it, and taught there did too. Eventually in 1975 it closed, and was demolished a few years later. It’s graveyard became overgrown with daffodils, and only recently, was it rediscovered, and plans put together for its renovation. Now it’s tidy , and its crosses clean and freshly painted, and plans are afoot to put it on the Northampton Historic Heritage Trail. Interestingly, the plans for the cemetery show that some graves were “not to be disturbed” as the nuns buried in them died from “Black Fever”- believed to be cholera or typhoid. We are Artemis. Our memorial Jewellery is Unlike any other worldwide, our jewellery is not made of glass or toxic plastic resin. We use only beautiful natural precious stones, including rock crystal quartz sapphire and diamond, bonded with your cremation ash, and set into handmade English silver gold and platinum settings in our UK workshop. Call helpline on (01636) 611001, To see how we can help you or visit us in Newark or our link in bio #deathanddying #derbyshire #rutland #leicestershire #derbyshiredales #leicester #derby #nottingham #lincolnshirewolds #lincolnshire #lifeanddeath #childloss #worlddeathrituals #widowedandyoung #bereavedmother #deathritual #ashmemorials #ashkeepsake #ashpendant #ashring #ashjewellery #cremationashjewellery #cremationashkeepsake #bereavement #comfortingrief #ashesjewellery #grantham #ashmemorial Смотреть полностью
Life Unexpected Day 336 - a monumental day for us. Today we went back to Cumbria to G
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Day 336 - a monumental day for us. Today we went back to Cumbria to G’s childhood home - I drove me, a friend for moral support and baby R. He’s now staying with his grandparents looking out on to the field that G and I got married in and kicking a football around in the garden that his father did the same in. Emotionally, I couldn’t face this trip for almost a year - I had planned to go in August but my aunt died - every memory for 12 years is tied up in this place. Meeting G’s parents for the first time, getting married, so many family occasions, quiet Sunday lunches, walks, Christmases, days out, just a chance to escape somewhere beautiful - all with one universal factor, we were always together. I made myself drive and when I parked up in the same spot G did every time, I cried like I haven’t cried for a long time. For G, for those memories and also for this new chapter of life that we are living 💙 #widow #widowedandyoung #youngwidow #bereavement #grief #griefjourney #griefandloss #memories Смотреть полностью
Jill M Swillum It may not feel like it all of the time, believe me I know, but you’
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It may not feel like it all of the time, believe me I know, but you’re getting stronger everyday. Even with the constant echo of pain. Let God use you through your pain. #widow #youngwidow #christianwidow #widowedandyoung #christian #journeyingrief #loss #lifeafterloss #lifeingrief #strength #girlswholift #godsstrengthnotmine #triumphovertragedy #godsplannotmine #myunexpectedjourney #alegacyoffaith #widowhood #widowsupport #widowsofinstagram Смотреть полностью
Grief support and services When we experience devastating loss grief changes us. Grief is relentl
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When we experience devastating loss grief changes us. Grief is relentless in its desire to awaken us. The roots of grief become engrained in the fabric of our existence. Grief infiltrates every singular cell that comprises who we are. ........................................................................ #griefquotes #widowlife #griefandloss #depression #lifeafterloss #selfcare #widowsupport #widowedandyoung #loveliveson #love #loss #griefcommunity #griefrecovery #losingalovedone #bereavement #bereaved #morethangrief #circleoflove #livingwithloss #livingwithgrief Смотреть полностью
h i v v y All a game of make believe__________________________________________
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All a game of make believe __________________________________________ #darl ingholdmetightly #hivvy #DHMT #widow #widowed #widowhood #widowedandyoung #widowlife #lifeafterloss #youngwidow #grief #griefawareness #lifeafterlove #write #writer #womenwhowrite #writersofinstagram #writersofig #words #poem #poems #poet #poets #poetry #dailypoem #poetrydaily #poetrycommunity #poetsofinstagram #poetsofig #imokay Смотреть полностью
Jill M Swillum “To pray, ‘Thy will be done,’ I must be willing, if the answer r
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“To pray, ‘Thy will be done,’ I must be willing, if the answer requires it, that my will be undone.” -Elisabeth Elliot 🗝 my will for my husband to still be living this life WITH me here on earth wasn’t Gods will. 🗝I miss Stephen so much more than ever 💔 and it’s hard to accept this fate in my life, but I have to trust Gods plan. Hard as it may be. My Faith must outweigh my discouragement. 🗝 I hope you are leaning on God today as you navigate through you’re own adversities. #widow #youngwidow #christianwidow #widowedandyoung #christian #journeyingrief #loss #lifeafterloss #lifeingrief #strength #godsstrengthnotmine #triumphovertragedy #godsplannotmine #myunexpectedjourney #alegacyoffaith #widowhood #widowsupport #widowsofinstagram Смотреть полностью
Life Unexpected Day 335 - was clearing out my work emails at lunchtime from 2016 (don
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Day 335 - was clearing out my work emails at lunchtime from 2016 (don’t ask) and found an email from G with this photo and a load more outtakes. He took this on timer at the door of our old house one day before we moved to our new house. In this picture I’m holding our cat, Wilbur, who went missing in 2018 just a few months before G died. I am the only person left from this photo. Baby R was a much wanted glimmer in our imagination and the dog hadn’t even been born. I still have that pink rose - I took it with me and it grows over the doorway of our new house. G loved it. Writing all that down life seems completely unfathomable 💙 #widow #youngwidow #widowedandyoung #grief #griefandloss #griefjourney #bereavement #memories Смотреть полностью
Allyson 🍁 Crowell Thank you for all the kind comments and messages about our pictures...
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Thank you for all the kind comments and messages about our pictures...even if I didn’t respond to every comment, I read them and appreciate them more than these words will do 🖤. . . I know so many of you have prayed alongside me in my journey the past decade and your prayers are evident in these pictures! . . I’m going to do this post and 1 more and share a lot more of the photos for those who have asked to see them. . . And here’s the details of some things from the shoot: 🌿 Photographer - @shelbycookphoto 🌱 Jumpsuit - Target 🌿 Location - Williamsport Lake . . Shelby is the best! We have now done 3 sessions with her since I was pregnant and have been beyond HAPPY with every single one. . . And you’d never know that Huxlee LITERALLY THREW UP all over his shirt the moment we swung open the car door to step out and start pictures. Yep! . . But there was honestly not 1 photo in the 100+ we received from her in this shoot that I didn’t just love! It’s so hard narrowing down the ones I’ll blow up for home 😳🤷🏻‍♀️. Смотреть полностью
Allyson 🍁 Crowell Thank you for all the kind comments and messages about our pictures...
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Thank you for all the kind comments and messages about our pictures...even if I didn’t respond to every comment, I read them and appreciate them more than these words will do 🖤. . . I know so many of you have prayed alongside me in my journey the past decade and your prayers are evident in these pictures! . . I’m going to do this post and 1 more and share a lot more of the photos for those who have asked to see them. . . And here’s the details of some things from the shoot: 🌿 Photographer - @shelbycookphoto 🌱 Jumpsuit - Target 🌿 Location - Williamsport Lake . . Shelby is the best! We have now done 3 sessions with her since I was pregnant and have been beyond HAPPY with every single one. . . And you’d never know that Huxlee LITERALLY THREW UP all over his shirt the moment we swung open the car door to step out and start pictures. Yep! . . But there was honestly not 1 photo in the 100+ we received from her in this shoot that I didn’t just love! It’s so hard narrowing down the ones I’ll blow up for home 😳🤷🏻‍♀️. Смотреть полностью
Life Unexpected Day 334 - goodbye hand, foot and mouth 👋🏽 You’ve made me miss
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Day 334 - goodbye hand, foot and mouth 👋🏽 You’ve made me miss #gbbo and made everyone sad. We’ve had enough of you. Thankfully, it seems to be on the way out and baby R is much more himself. Nursery have also been really helpful and we saw a great GP who made me feel like I was doing a good job. Which, to be quite frank, any #soloparent #loneparent #singleparent still standing after illnesses and sleepless nights, is doing - in fact they’re doing a bloody amazing job. Here’s to better sleep, fewer weird sounding farmyard illnesses and some good luck - oh, I believe we deserve it now 💙 #widow #youngwidow #handfootmouthdisease #widowedandyoung #grief #griefjourney #griefandloss #beingmumanddad Смотреть полностью
Rachel Cockett A picture or two of Alistair. Just because....#bereavement #grief
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A picture or two of Alistair. Just because. . . . #bereavement #grief #loss #griefandloss #grieving  #griefjourney #griefrevolution #widow #widowlife  #widowedandyoung #youngwidow  #widowsofinstagram #memories #happymemories Смотреть полностью
Danni Randall The always beautiful Mawgan Porth. Mine and my Mikey's special place.
Mawgan Porth Beach
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The always beautiful Mawgan Porth. Mine and my Mikey's special place. Visited again yesterday, almost 10 years to the day of our first visit and scattered his ashes. Missing my darling hubby so much but know he is always with me. #cornwall #happyplace #memories #truelove #foreverlove #husbandappreciationpost #widowedandyoung #widowedandsurviving #cornishcoast #cornwallcoast #mawganporth #mawganporthbeach Смотреть полностью
Grief support and services Hold on to the love you carry in your heart.Death forces us to let go
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Hold on to the love you carry in your heart. Death forces us to let go of our loved one's hand, but nothing can remove the love inside our hearts. ...................................................................... #loveliveson #lovelivesinmyheart #grief #griefandloss #copingwithloss #loss #navigatinggrief #holdingontohope #holdingontoyou #holdingontolove #widowsupport #widows #hopeis #widowed #widowedandsurviving #widowedandyoung Смотреть полностью
Jill M Swillum •The waters may be rising all around you, BUT God is still in contr
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• The waters may be rising all around you, BUT God is still in control. •You may feel like you’re drowning, BUT God is still in control. •You may be facing opposition, BUT God is still in control. Let your faith do the talking not your fears. •#widow #youngwidow #christianwidow #widowedandyoung #christian #journeyingrief #loss #lifeafterloss #lifeingrief #strength #godsstrengthnotmine #triumphovertragedy #godsplannotmine #myunexpectedjourney #alegacyoffaith #widowhood #widowsofinstagram Смотреть полностью
Grief support and services We are grieving. Holding on to all that was good and perfect before th
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We are grieving. Holding on to all that was good and perfect before the storms of life swept love away. Like if you are grieving. ........................................................................ #navigatinggrief #findingyourself #loss #widowsupport #holdingontohope #holdingon #widowsupportingwidows #death #missingyou 😢 #findingpeace #griefishardwork #griefandloss #losingalovedone #widows #widowedandyoung #widowsofinstagram #griefisreal #griefisloveunfinished #griefislove #losingalovedone #losingafriend #losingsomeone Смотреть полностью
Allyson 🍁 Crowell I’ve started typing and deleted this post countless times now. I’m
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I’ve started typing and deleted this post countless times now. I’m a writer at heart. And short captioned things aren’t something I naturally lean toward when sharing a picture. I want to tell you the depths of it, how it came to be, the feeling and emotion derived or learned even through it. _ But that requires a lot of time and energy which I don’t seem to have as much of these days for social media. _ Sitting in church this morning, I realized this was something worth taking the time and energy for though. To share. To wait until my boys were in bed so I could clear my mind for a few minutes to pour into someone who needs something God is calling me to say here. _ The precious vibrant life you see in this picture was “never supposed to be”. His Mama always envisioned marriage in her early 20’s followed by her first child soon after and a “normal” life with a career in fitness and wellness. _ She never saw him coming. _ She never saw losing herself. She never saw a loneliness where she couldn’t recognize the reflection in the mirror. She never saw depression as a word used to describe her state of being. She never saw divorce. She never saw so much regret. She never saw a 2nd marriage. She never saw a love that could be so raw and real. She never saw contentment with so little (that was really so much). She never saw infertility. . . (Insert real life 👉🏻 Huxlee woke up crying and did so to the point of making himself throw up. I got him back to sleep and now I’ll finish Lord willing.) . . She never saw so many moves across the state of Tennessee. She never saw moving back in with her parents so many times. She never saw becoming a widow before 30. She never saw herself questioning God’s character. She never saw herself questioning the purpose of life. She never saw herself trying to drown grief in stupid decisions. She never saw miscarriage as part of her story. She never saw 2 miscarriages. She never saw pure love happening again. She never saw a 3rd marriage. She never saw cancer being part of her family’s path. She never saw panic attacks. She never saw PTSD. _ Continued 👇🏻 Смотреть полностью
Young Widow What are you going to commit to this month? Comment below....
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What are you going to commit to this month? Comment below....
Life Unexpected Day 332 - the reality of a poorly baby who might have hand, foot and m
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Day 332 - the reality of a poorly baby who might have hand, foot and mouth and #beingmumanddad - sat on the nursery floor with a #duplo scooter and a mini floor brush, while baby R brings me all sorts of things whilst occasionally crying and then suddenly being ok - as variable as baby illnesses seem to be. I’m still wearing yesterday’s pyjamas and hoping I can get a bath and a takeaway once he’s gone to bed and then some sleep myself before we begin the disrupted night routine....🤞🏽 #widow #youngwidow #iliveinpyjamas #widowedandyoung #grief #griefjourney #griefandloss #cardiacriskintheyoung Смотреть полностью